What to do

irisheddie85

Hi Me and my fianee have your wedding booked for next march. Have had it booked for a few months and everyone in the family knows the date.
This weekend we found out that a cousin of mine has booked his wedding for 2 weeks earlier.
Obviously we are both a bit taken aback by this and wondering what can we do. Is there anything we could do or should do
How close is too close for 2 weddings in the same family?

Rew

Get you invites out first and don't worry about it

ana_conda

I think that's absolutely fine. If it was a brother or sister then it might be a bigger problem. Because its your cousin it shouldn't matter as long as it doesn't fall on the same weekend!

SSFG

I booked mine for 8 wks before my cousins, and I did feel awful, but I just didn't want to be engaged for over a year, and I figured that 8 wks was a reasonable amount of time between us. Think his mam is a bit thick though

janbaby

2 weeks before yours is very close. Will the same people be invited to both? Its expensive if people get invited to both and I don't think they will be happy about that. I know its your day but I would ask your cousin to consider moving the date or if I was you and I was flexible with dates you have plenty of time to move things around.

rainbowtrout

irisheddie85 wrote: »

Hi Me and my fianee have your wedding booked for next march. Have had it booked for a few months and everyone in the family knows the date.
This weekend we found out that a cousin of mine has booked his wedding for 2 weeks earlier.
Obviously we are both a bit taken aback by this and wondering what can we do. Is there anything we could do or should do
How close is too close for 2 weddings in the same family?

You booked yours first. They knew about your date and still chose a date close to it. They are free to do what they want as well so I wouldn't go asking them to change it. Let them worry about it.

irisheddie85

Hi
We were planning on invites all the first cousins and were assuming they would be doing the same so there would be a fairly large group that would be at both weddings.
Just worrying about comparisons being made between the 2. If theres is good then everyone will be able to say which menu they prefered and which band was better, and if there wedding is not so good (there is a chance of family fights when they all get together) then I'm worried no one would want to go to a wedding 2 weeks later or fights might carry over.

It will probably work out alright just got a bit freaked out when I heard how close it was at first

rainbowtrout

Nobody remembers the food or the band beyond good, bad or indifferent. A friend of mine has 9 weddings this year. The first one is in a month's time. I doubt she'll be able to remember that one by the time she gets to the third or fourth. If your cousins are fighting at the first wedding, it would be poor form to carry that behaviour forward to yours and reflects more on them than it does you.

Heineken Helen

irisheddie85 wrote: »

Hi
We were planning on invites all the first cousins and were assuming they would be doing the same so there would be a fairly large group that would be at both weddings.
Just worrying about comparisons being made between the 2. If theres is good then everyone will be able to say which menu they prefered and which band was better, and if there wedding is not so good (there is a chance of family fights when they all get together) then I'm worried no one would want to go to a wedding 2 weeks later or fights might carry over.

It will probably work out alright just got a bit freaked out when I heard how close it was at first

I don't envy ya, this is not a nice situation. At least look at it that you can learn loads from their wedding, who will need to be sat seperately and who's likely to bitch about what

Good luck though! It must be tough enough for you pair also, with all the planning going on it's gonna be tough to squeeze in somebody elses wedding two weeks beforehand.

amdublin

irisheddie85 wrote: »

Is there anything we could do or should do

No.
Nothing you can do.
Nothing you should do.



Just go and enjoy your wedding (and their wedding) and stop thinking about things you have no control over.

k4899g

I wouldn't worry about comparisons. I can barely remember what I ate by the next day.
Just go with it but send save the date cards out now first just so everyone knows that you booked it first, not to be bitchy but just so people will come to yours.

To be honest I've heard of cousins picking the same date, now that was trouble!