Wedding Day bad investment?

ronan45

Mates getting married, He says the minimum he can pull it off for is about 8k which he says is actually nothing for a wedding the norm a few years ago was 15k - 20k.

He has a new house which looks quite basic to be honest. My advice would be to do somthing small and splash out on his crib! Sure they will be there for years. IS it really worth blowing a small fortune on a days events in the present day Ireland?
Like all that cash for a few hours? AM i just unromantic?
YES I KNOW ITS YOUR BIG DAY BUT IN THIS DAY AND AGE?
Did they spend them spondoolics in yesteryear?

Penn

Crib? Spondoolics?

So to answer your question, I don't care. It's their day, they can spend however much they want on it.

tommyboy2222

Best not to blow it all on the first one.

Spread it out over the second and subsequent weddings.

mariebeth

yes, you are being totally unromantic. its your mates big day, so sit back & enjoy the stag

Abi

tommyboy2222 wrote: »

Best not to blow it all on the first one.

Spread it out over the second and subsequent weddings. divorce

Fixed that for ya.

mickdw

In this area people are pretty much covering costs with cash received.

bonerm

Bring back dowries and getting her father to pay for the whole thing, that's what I say! (sure aren't you doing him a favour by taking her off his hands)

chicken fingers

So many dont understand what the word investment actually means.

Also boring troll.

Mike 1972

8K = half decent set of wheels
If both parties are EU citizens ask themselves is there much point ?

ronan45 wrote: »

Mates getting married, He says the minimum he can pull it off for is about 8k

What is the registry office fee these days ?

Feeona

Well when you consider the financial investment your mate will make on a wedding, it pales into significance beside the physical investment his fiancee will make.
How come we never see threads labelled 'Carrying your husband's child, bad investment?'

Tigger

mickdw wrote: »

In this area people are pretty much covering costs with cash received.

Nope

biko

It's not supposed to be an investment I think, let's see what the people in Wedding forum think.

Mike 1972

Feeona wrote: »

the physical investment his fiancee will make.
How come we never see threads labelled 'Carrying your husband's child, bad investment?'

This thread is about weddings not procreation

The two are in no way related

Welcome to the 21st Century

smelltheglove

A wedding isn't an investment and you are being unromantic in that sense but I can also see where you are coming from. We blew a fortune on our wedding which, after working so many weddings, I see could have been done for a lot less, less people often means more intimate.

There were certain things that I wouldnt change, obviously the dvd and photos are precious to us so that was money well spent as was the music. I loved my venue but it was very far from most so if I wentback I prob would have had it in Dublin, I also wouldnt have bothered with the invites for certain people, you dont have to invite ALL of your friends families:rolleyes: or thedistant relations you havent seenin years:rolleyes: or the acquaintences you see daily but wouldnt necessarily go for dinner with:rolleyes: and so on. Haha I also would have went with my gut on the first dress I saw rather than buying another and changing my mind.

The perfect wedding to one person will be wrong for another, it is completely individual and if it is a live long marriage then sure why the heck not!

BC

If people want to spend money and can afford to then whats the problem.
How somebody spends their money is up to them really.

janbaby

I always said I'd never spend money on a big day but now that I'm in full swing of wedding planning I can see how its easy to spend loads. I know its only ONE day but its such a big event its not the same as any other day. I think people should spend what they can afford. The days of being in serious debt for a wedding are gone but I wouldnt call a wedding "an investment" to me its a party!

ana_conda

Investment sometimes isn't really a word to describe your wedding because their isn't a cash return (unless you have VERY generous guests!)

I think there is a general rule of thumb here.... If its important to you and you can afford it then go for it! I do think its a big mistake when couples who are already struggling financially go and get into major debt for a wedding.

If you can afford it, without a major loan and it what you've always wanted then do it! You will never be getting married again (or at least that's the plan)

mickdw

Tigger wrote: »

Nope

As I said - in my area. The average size of wedding is around 300 people and most people cover the costs with the cash gifts. Maybe 2 to 3k to pay themselves at the end.
I dont know any young couple who have had a small wedding and 90% of those getting married would have nothing. In fact some go even bigger.