Still A Virgin Girls Answer Only?

LegacyUser

This is a bit embarasing to admit-Im 29 still a virgin-not by choice-or not waiting for marriage or anything like that- I had very bad acne for years-but its cleared up now.

Due to having Acne I had very low confidence and self esteem and just wasn,t ready for dating- but now that its cleared up and gone away Im more then ready for dating- th eonly issue is Im still a virgin- Im scared most girls will be put off by this- Im thinking should I hook up a certain girl who likes me for a one night stand to get the sex bit over and done with and start dating? or be upfront with any girls that Im still a Virgin?

booboo88

admit ur a virgin, you'll earn more respect

DeadlyTwig

I don't think girls are under the same pressure as guys to lose their virginity early. I know when boys are teenagers they can be teased about not having sex. Girls really don't see it that why. In my circle we would certainly consider it an endearing quality. Girls are not impressed by guys that sleep around! `so don't worry

Don't go out and look for a one night stand just for the sake of it! You'll definitely regret it when you meet a person you really care about.

I certainly wouldn't see it as an issue, if anything it would make me feel more confident with a guy. Girls can feel really self conscious during sex, especially the first time with a particular guy. My current boyfriend was a virgin when he got with me (only 21 so he wasn't under any pressure to get to it but I had lost my virginity at 16), and I found it a lot of fun, teaching him stuff, feeling like he'd be more open to trying stuff with me since he was only starting to have sex. Anyway he's well surpassed me in bedroom skills now so clearly a difference in experience isn't much of a hindrance. You have no reason to let a girl know, as it shouldn't be that important, but I'd recommend telling a girl (obviously only when in context) so that just in case the first time (or five) you have sex she wont mind if things are a bit bumpy or you take a while to find your feet.

Being a virgin, you not only have a better chance of finding a girl that wants a relationship rather than just sex, but also you'll be a far more attractive prospect to relationship seeking girls because they'll know you're not the love them and leave them type. I really wouldn't recommend getting a one-night-stand in before dating, but if you feel so inclined go ahead. Happy hunting.

Gyalist

BTW, if you continue your mistaken idea that advice from women is what you need to develop a sex life, I am willing to predict that you will be sorely disappointed.

The Lovely Muffin

Tbh OP, there is nothing embarrassing about being a virgin - at any age.

I'm 20, female and a virgin and am in no hurry to have sex. Last year I dated a guy last year for a few weeks and he would blatantly hint at sex (grabbing my ass, telling me my ass was nice, saying how sexy he thinks I am, running his hands over my boobs) and tbh, it kinda put me off him a bit. I didn't sleep with him (obviously) and I'm very glad I didn't. I would have regretted sleeping with him, I thought I was ready to "lose it" but looking back now, I wasn't, I wanted to be like others, have sex so I wouldn't be a virgin, I didn't sleep with that guy and I'm very, very glad I didn't as I would have regretted it.

Personally, I'd prefer a virgin to a guy who slept/sleeps around.

As for having a ONS just to lose your virginity - I wouldn't recommend it. IMO, if you have a ONS just to "lose it" you'll probably end up regretting the ONS when you find someone you care deeply about and you'll wish you waited.

As for telling a girl, while you don't *have* to tell anyone, it might be a good idea to tell the girl you do sleep with because as your inexperienced in the bedroom dept, you don't want her thinking your useless as sex, so at least if she knows your a virgin, she will (hopefully) be patient with you.

When you find a girl who is interested in you and cares deeply about you, she won't mind whether your a virgin at 29 or not.

Has your confidence and esteem improved OP? As sometimes, if a guy isn't confident and it shows, it can be a turn-off, but if your confident (not arrogant/cocky) and it shows, that's a turn on, IMO.

Best of luck OP, hope it all works out for you.

gerryk

In sex, enthusiasm trumps all.

LegacyUser

I'm gonna ignore the title as I'm a man.

Just wanna say that I recently lost my virginity at 26 years to my current girlfriend of 5 months. She was actually the 4th girl I'd gone to bed with. But because I didn't trust the previous girls enough to tell them the truth, I put myself under too much pressure and as a result I couldn't "perform" down below. When my GF came along, we spent plenty of time getting to know one another. Once things were about to become physically intimate (we were already emotionally close) I shared with her that I was a virgin and why (no need to go into my reasons, they were important to me as yours are to you). Today she frequently says she's happy with me in the bedroom and I don't think the fact that I was a virgin had any negative impact on her impression of me at the time. She was in fact glad that I shared that with her.

I think she was the perfect person for me to meet and it took me 4 attempts to find the right girl. So I guess the moral of my story is not to worry about the first girl you take to bed because she's unlikely to be "the one", and don't be afraid to make mistakes along the way. I learnt about myself that I needed to find someone I could connect with emotionally to enjoy sex with them (which really surprised me tbh). So just try whatever and learn what works for you.

Good luck!

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies everyone-I not sure how to use the quote button on this yet- so Il reply to some comments as best I can.

@ Purple_Bobbin My confidence has by far Improved the last few months, due to self hypnosis cds that have worked great for me.

@ DeadlyTwig you hit the nail on head, I totally agree with your post, that,s kinda how I feel and main reason I posted this to begin with.

@ Reformed Virgin Thanks for your comment, Im just hoping to meet a similar girl to what you met someone who will be completely non Judgemental towards my past regarding my lack of experience.

MsHolloway

Don't be embarrassed OP. There are lots of people in the same situation as you. I can only speak for myself, but it wouldn't bother me in the slightest if the guy was a virgin, in fact I think I'd find it quite endearing. I personally think you should wait until you meet someone you really like. Someone you will be comfortable with and can trust to tell them. But thats just my opinion, you should do whatever feels right for you!

RuthieC

As cheesy as this sounds... when you're with someone you're comfortable with it will happen in the most natural way. Don't try and force it. And tell her or don't tell her. She won't mind either way - she'll understand. Don't worry about being awkward or anything like that. Mostly, the first time with a new partner (virgin or not) is normally a bit awkward anyway until you get used to each others bodies. And don't take it all too seriously... if you can giggle with her over awkward moments you'll put you both at ease. Hope this helps

Motley Crue

I would find it refreshing to date, and even sleep, with a girl who was a virgin. I would respect that. Even if you didn't sleep with me I'd still respect you.