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I can't Cum! (Guy)

  • 06-03-2011 10:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm not sure how many other people have this problem, but I'm a guy and I can't really cum through penetrative sex. I literally have only ever done it once, and that is because I had not cum at all for a long time before this - every other time I have sex I don't cum until I usually finish myself off at the end - usualyl with her help. Personally it does not really bother me but I know it sometimes bothers the girl. I put it down to many years of masterbation using a particular technique, and only into my late 20's have i started having regular sex. Basically I cannot really cum without stimulation of the pereuneum. If I'm wearing a condom I lose a lot of sensitivity so it would definitely enver happen then. I do wish I could be more normal, and wondering is there anything I can do? Has anyone else had this problem and was there anything you could do to fix it?
    Thanks


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  • #2
    Moe1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11 ✭Moe1


    cantcum wrote: »
    I'm not sure how many other people have this problem, but I'm a guy and I can't really cum through penetrative sex. I literally have only ever done it once, and that is because I had not cum at all for a long time before this - every other time I have sex I don't cum until I usually finish myself off at the end - usualyl with her help. Personally it does not really bother me but I know it sometimes bothers the girl. I put it down to many years of masterbation using a particular technique, and only into my late 20's have i started having regular sex.

    Maybe if you ease off on the self-love for a little while, you'll be more likely to climax through sex. You said yourself that you have come like this before, with the help of a build-up; this shows that it's not impossible for you.
    wrote:
    Basically I cannot really cum without stimulation of the pereuneum.
    No reason why you can't do this while having sex. Try a different position for ease of access, if needed.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I also suffer from this problem. I take it you've never had sex without using a condom. For me, doing so cancels it out. If that's not an option Try to practice masturbating from the shaft as opposed to the head if you get me. Ejaculating inside a vagina is a pleasure worthy of sacrificing your favorite masturbation technique, trust me.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yep I also had this problem until recently.

    First off quit masterbating until you solve the problem. Make sure you dont have any alcohol when you are doing the deed. try and get a different brand of condoms if you must wear them, the sensitive the better. Stop over thinking it or it will never happen.

    I did all of the above and have got to the stage now where I can. Biggest issue for me was too much masterbation in a previous life, your need to restart your sensitivity as it were.

    Hope that helps!


  • #5
    SarahG91
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭SarahG91


    I had a boyfriend with this issue.... we tried out many different positions in bed but he could never finish inside me. It turned out to be the condoms. I have a contraceptive implant so I made him get tested for STD's and then we started having sex without them. It was like night and day, he could cum so much more easily without them and sex was more enjoyable for both of us. This might be an option for you too. From a girls perspective, reassure your gf that she's not doing anything wrong because she might be feeling self conscious about it.


  • #6
    jonnygiles
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 243 ✭✭jonnygiles


    cantcum wrote: »
    I'm not sure how many other people have this problem, but I'm a guy and I can't really cum through penetrative sex. I literally have only ever done it once, and that is because I had not cum at all for a long time before this - every other time I have sex I don't cum until I usually finish myself off at the end - usualyl with her help. Personally it does not really bother me but I know it sometimes bothers the girl. I put it down to many years of masterbation using a particular technique, and only into my late 20's have i started having regular sex. Basically I cannot really cum without stimulation of the pereuneum. If I'm wearing a condom I lose a lot of sensitivity so it would definitely enver happen then. I do wish I could be more normal, and wondering is there anything I can do? Has anyone else had this problem and was there anything you could do to fix it?
    Thanks

    Hey man i had the same problem for a while myself, I needed a few times before I was able to perform, think she was more delighted than me with the success to be honest! It can sometimes happen when you think about it too much therefore you pressurise yourself into it happening so youre taking the "handy" way out (excuse the pun). Perhaps you should try a different position I would recommend using the spooning technique as you dont have to wear yourself out as quickly and youd probably have the right mindset to have your moment of glory!


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