rekindle a relationship

sporina

when 2 people who use to go out get back together, does it ever really work out? what are others experiences of this?

Sonics2k

Yes it can work out, but it can depend on the reason you separated in the first place.

The key to staying together is not to rush back into a heavy relationship you may have had before. Try to think of it as a fresh start, and not worry or stress about whatever caused your initial breakup.

Colonel_McCoy

didnt work for me.....one of my biggest regrets is going back......I have learned that an Ex is an Ex for a reason.........

CathyMoran

Happily married to an "ex", they were just speedbumps along the way but he has always been my dream man - I love him.

Vicxas

Depends why you broke up originally, i went back to an ex before. big mistake. but i also tried with another ex and we went for a good long time before we grew apart.

flowerchild

I married my ex and we have been very happy. It depends on how you feel about the person and how you both have dealt with the repercussions of the first break-up.

I find that we are stronger now, because I know that he is lovely even in a break-up.

Ickle Magoo

Hi Sporina,

Is this a personal issue for you? Is there something you would like advice on? Rather than canvassing for others stories?

JimmyCrackCorn

Colonel_McCoy wrote: »

didnt work for me.....one of my biggest regrets is going back......I have learned that an Ex is an Ex for a reason.........

Iv done this twice. Both of them ended a year or so after. I regret doiung it in bot cases but that's with hindsight.

Id be more reluctant to do it again and id never do it in the circumstances I did it the last two times.

While that's not a great answer its the best I can give its very dependant on the situation.

sporina

thanks for the replies..

we broke up because i felt that there was not enough spark in the relationship.. but everything else was perfect!!! And now we are not in contact - he said he does not want to - that he needs to get over me. This I totally understand and respect and admire actually.
But I miss his soo much. I have been soo utterly miserable with out him.
I am hard to please - a part of me feels that I need to be real and stop chasing.
How do you know when its right?

Ickle Magoo

I think you should trust your instincts - you thought there wasn't enough spark and it must have been a considerable issue in order to warrant you breaking up over it. It's hard when you look back at a relationship not to dwell on all the things you are going to miss and that went well, but there's no harm in reminding yourself why you were motivated to call things off.

You never know what's around the corner and how life will pan out, if you felt it wasn't right then trust yourself and trust that there will be someone out there that has all you want and the spark.

All the best. :cool: