Strange dreams

LegacyUser

Hey guys,

my long term relationship ended around 6 months ago, I was absolutely devastated for months. Since January I've really moved on, seeing other people and getting on with life, my moods are back to normal. However over the past week my ex is just creeping into my thoughts, I keep having really life like dreams involving her and its really putting me on edge. Is this normal?

I've realised that she's not the person I thought she was, and I don't want to get back with her, but I do miss feeling that happy on a daily basis. Anyone experienced the same?

Cheers

quxuik

Hello! I experienced something similar to you...
My relationship ended about 8 months ago...I was absolutely devastated cos I really thought he was the last one..any way...I was much better for couple of months but recently started dreaming about him...remembering all the time we spent together...I can feel it all in the dream but when I wake up I really don't want to go back with him...
I think that,inside of me I really miss being in a relationship and being close with another person...that I am ready for a new relationship...he was the last person I was so close with...maybe thats why he comes to my mind so often now..I dont know..I would rather met someone new other than dreaming about my ex

Wompa1

quxuik wrote: »

Hello! I experienced something similar to you...
My relationship ended about 8 months ago...I was absolutely devastated cos I really thought he was the last one..any way...I was much better for couple of months but recently started dreaming about him...remembering all the time we spent together...I can feel it all in the dream but when I wake up I really don't want to go back with him...
I think that,inside of me I really miss being in a relationship and being close with another person...that I am ready for a new relationship...he was the last person I was so close with...maybe thats why he comes to my mind so often now..I dont know..I would rather met someone new other than dreaming about my ex

Yeah maybe that's it. I'm in a similar situation only it's only be just under 2 months. I'm sure I'm better off because she turned out to be a really lousy person...I think I want companionship and someone to cuddle and my brain gets triggered to think of her because that's what my brain relates all that too.

lynsalot

Hey Wompa,

Definitely think it might be that you want a relationship with someone and you sub conscious manifests it as your ex. it has happened to me in the past alright

IT might also be that the mind has the wonderful ability to forget the bad things and remember the good ones. So it may be that you want the excitement of a new relationship and in your mind you're remembering the excitement in your previous relationship.

I wouldn't read too much into it at all. Have u started to see anyone new? Anyone on the horizon?

I got separated not so long ago and thought it was the end of the world. It was a long time coming and a very unhealthy relationship I'm well out of. Afterwards the anger kept me going but when i met my new bf I couldn't help comparing and remembering the good times but it goes away. It's completely natural and you'll get through it.

Best of luck

Wompa1

lynsalot wrote: »

Hey Wompa,

Definitely think it might be that you want a relationship with someone and you sub conscious manifests it as your ex. it has happened to me in the past alright

IT might also be that the mind has the wonderful ability to forget the bad things and remember the good ones. So it may be that you want the excitement of a new relationship and in your mind you're remembering the excitement in your previous relationship.

I wouldn't read too much into it at all. Have u started to see anyone new? Anyone on the horizon?

I got separated not so long ago and thought it was the end of the world. It was a long time coming and a very unhealthy relationship I'm well out of. Afterwards the anger kept me going but when i met my new bf I couldn't help comparing and remembering the good times but it goes away. It's completely natural and you'll get through it.

Best of luck

No. To be honest I'm really intimidated to go out and try to pull in a club or pub again. I never really enjoyed it..as you might have seen in After Hours on occasion Irish girls can be really harsh when rejecting someone. I've just started to try the internet dating thing on the advise of a friend but I'm finding it frustrating too. I've had 2 girls say they wanted to meet up. One just stopped messaging another one agreed to meet this weekend and then cancelled on Friday..saying she thought about things and didn't think it was a good idea and she'd explain again but hasn't...so there's rejection on the internet too...pretty confidence shattering so far

lynsalot

Yeah its frustrating alright but I've gone on a few dates from meeting people online. Some were good. Some ok and one was disastrous, but something to tell the grandkids.

I met my current and ex partner online aswell. There are definitely decent people out there. One website anotherfriend.com I signed up to for a while. A lot of nonsense emails about sex and meeting for coffees at midnight lol eh no. But finally met a lovely young man who chatted me up over email!! Stick it out its definitely worth it. I've not experienced anyone cancelling but i think women are more likely to.

I only cancelled on an internet date once, because I injured myself and didn't want to go on crutches lol

I don't know if it helps but i've always met partners when i just wanted some dates and fun and excitement. I took it very slowly with my current partner and it worked out ok.

If it helps, I found rsvp good back in the day but I don't know if it's still up and running.