Feeling guilty over spending so much money

karaokeman

I recently purchased second hand tickets to Take That at Croke Park this summer for me and my friend from Ebay.

They are 118 Euro each, which includes postage and packaging from England. My friend agreed he was ok with paying this money so I don't need to worry about putting him under pressure.

Problem is my dad seemed worried about it. I tried explaining its worth it because the concert is Take That and Robbie Williams when I could have seen them in the past for 70 Euro each. So for me its like 2 concerts in one but my dad's unconvinced because he feels its possible Robbie might leave Take That again before the tour (which I doubt highly).

So basically me and my friend have paid for the tickets with our own money and I'm trying to get over a disagreement I had with my dad over it.

Miss Fluff

What's the issue?

karaokeman

I had an argument with my dad because he doesn't think its worth the money.

My self-esteem is fine but I always feel down after a row with my parents.

Ickle Magoo

Your dad is worried you've wasted your money - point out it's your money to waste but thank him for his concern.

All the best.

Overheal

well do you have a source of income? Allowance not counting.

Chuchoter

Is it his money, as in did you work for it or is it allowance? Frankly I would never pay €118 for a concert ticket. Theres nothing much you can do about it now, money is spent.

Denerick

There are two answers to two questions here:

1) If it is your own money, which you earned yourself, then stuff him.

2) If it is his money, which he gave to you, then shame on you. You should have spent it on Radiohead or someone

karaokeman

Denerick wrote: »

There are two answers to two questions here:

1) If it is your own money, which you earned yourself, then stuff him.

2) If it is his money, which he gave to you, then shame on you. You should have spent it on Radiohead or someone

It is my own money but he seems to think I will regret spending it.
I appreciate the concern but sometimes arguing becomes too much for me.
And just for the record I am slightly more wealthy than other people my age (19) so I'm feeling ok about my decision.

Firetrap

Seeing as it's money you've earned yourself, you can look at it as something to treat yourself to after working hard. As long as you're not blowing lots and lots of the rest of your money, it shouldn't be a problem.

It's all a matter of perspective. You could be wasting your money on far worse things. If you smoked 20 a day, for example, you'd have spent that money in a fortnight. Go out on the tear and by the time you've gotten home after drinks, a nightclub and a taxi, you'll have said goodbye to quite a few notes.

There's no doubt that the prices of tickets to these shows are pretty shocking, especially to someone of your dad's generation. I'm sure you can appreciate where he's coming from. I sometimes go to these sort of shows too and even though I don't have to justify the price to anyone, I do occasionally say to myself "You've just spent what?" :eek:

Try not to let his comments get to you. You'll have to agree to disagree on this one.

karaokeman

Firetrap wrote: »

Seeing as it's money you've earned yourself, you can look at it as something to treat yourself to after working hard. As long as you're not blowing lots and lots of the rest of your money, it shouldn't be a problem.

It's all a matter of perspective. You could be wasting your money on far worse things. If you smoked 20 a day, for example, you'd have spent that money in a fortnight. Go out on the tear and by the time you've gotten home after drinks, a nightclub and a taxi, you'll have said goodbye to quite a few notes.

There's no doubt that the prices of tickets to these shows are pretty shocking, especially to someone of your dad's generation. I'm sure you can appreciate where he's coming from. I sometimes go to these sort of shows too and even though I don't have to justify the price to anyone, I do occasionally say to myself "You've just spent what?" :eek:

Try not to let his comments get to you. You'll have to agree to disagree on this one.

Cheers man best advice so far.

I try to look at it from that perspective. I never smoke nor drink and I never will so I try and think along the lines of how much money I have saved because people who do 20 a day could spend E118 in a shorter period.

I will try to not let it get me down, I will agree to disagree for now.

kjl

Your Dad just probably remembers when Robbie left the last time, and left the every female between the ages of 11-30 crying their eyes out for about 2 months. Give him time and maybe he will see that Robbie is back for good.

Your dad, whatever he said, he didn't mean it. He is just being protective, he needs to learn to trust Robbie again, and it might take some time. But bit by bit he will be convinced again.

Aishae

i dont know what most parents are like with the money you spend - no matter what age you are 10,15,20,30 etc.... parents will always be parents and keep the parental role. im almost 27 and even now if i spend something (whther it was 10 or 100) my mother often says 'you should be saving' 'you didnt exactly need that' etc. funny thing is, if i buy something she suggested she never says a word! ive come to realise more than anything she just has to have her say. mt father on the other hand is a lot more easygoing so even as a kid he never really commented when i blew my pocket money on sweets or saved up to go see boyzone. he knows i'll do what i'll do.
so i take what mam says on board - or at least hear her out - and leave it at that.

parents have different views on what counts as a good way to spend money or a waste etc.

id say try not to let the situation get heated enough to argue. as you say - you end up feeling crap.
if this was a situation with my mam id listen then say 'i understand that but what if this was a concert for donny osmond' or a whatever teen music she liked 'and i got a good deal really.'

LegacyUser

karaokeman wrote: »

I recently purchased second hand tickets to Take That at Croke Park this summer for me and my friend from Ebay.

They are 118 Euro each, which includes postage and packaging from England. My friend agreed he was ok with paying this money so I don't need to worry about putting him under pressure.

Problem is my dad seemed worried about it. I tried explaining its worth it because the concert is Take That and Robbie Williams when I could have seen them in the past for 70 Euro each. So for me its like 2 concerts in one but my dad's unconvinced because he feels its possible Robbie might leave Take That again before the tour (which I doubt highly).

So basically me and my friend have paid for the tickets with our own money and I'm trying to get over a disagreement I had with my dad over it.

How much of the 118 was postage and packing? Maybe your dad is concerned that you've paid for international delivery unnecessarily?

There's also merit in the view that perhaps your dad doesn't trust Robbie? It was a big shock for everyone when he left last time, and media reports of his life over the years don't point to him being particularly reliable. Your dad could just be worried about how you'd feel about paying so much if Robbie was to leave before the concert, particularly given his presence was a major factor in your purchasing decision. Would you feel ok about it if he were to leave?

Would it be too late for you to negotiate a partial refund from the seller if Robbie were to leave? Take the postage and packing off the 118, decide how much you would have been prepared to pay if Robbie was not appearing and then you'll know how much you've paid to see Robbie in particular. You could ask the seller if he'd be prepared to refund you this amount if Robbie does not show up.

Similarly, with the amount you would have paid to see the other four without Robbie, you could divide that by 4 and negotiate a refund say if one of them was to end up sick and unable to perform.

This might put your dads mind more at ease, and at least you'd know you were guaranteed to get the value for money you expected.

Overheal

karaokeman wrote: »

It is my own money but he seems to think I will regret spending it.
I appreciate the concern but sometimes arguing becomes too much for me.
And just for the record I am slightly more wealthy than other people my age (19) so I'm feeling ok about my decision.

He probably just wants you to make wise spending decisions. Like saving money properly or even though it may seem young to be thinking about it: investment. I'm 23 and if I opened up an IRA back when I was 19 it would have been worth considerably more money when I turned 65. Set one up for a child and when he turns 65 it can be worth millions. Then of course theres the wide world of Mutual Funds. Apple's stock has grown 300% in the last few years - you'd be lucky to make 3% sticking it in a regular savings account. Buy and Hold baby. They pay out Dividends too. Won't make you quit your day job but like I said it's more growth than savings if you are aware of the risks.

Point being there are lots of things to do with money to get much more money.

ted1

tell your dad if he does leave you will be entitled to a refund of use face value of the ticket. Problem sorted. You will be entitled to a refund.