How Long Do I Wait; And How Do I Approach Her?

LegacyUser

This is a bit of a weird one, but this is something my conscience is really pulling me in all directions over.

Basically, I started my second year of uni in September, and in two of my classes, was a girl who I had never seen before. From a purely physical standpoint, I thought she was incredible, but I didn't know anything, at all, about her, though I made some guesses, seeing how she was obviously in a course related to my own. In reality though, I never got to really know her - I never managed to work up the courage to speak to her. This wasn't so much that I was afraid to speak to her, but I was afraid to try and approach her when she was around her group of friends, which was always. I'm fairly shy, and while I can muster up the courage to speak to a woman in person if she's by herself, once her friends are around, I've got a huge block on it. Essentially all I knew was her first name and what she looked like.

Anyway, I never managed to get to talk to her, December rolled around, Christmas break came, and I assumed I'd get another chance this semester. She's not only no longer in any of my classes, but I haven't even seen her around the building most of the classes for the uni's department are in. Naturally, I've been kicking myself for the past two months for not having the balls to approach her.

The other day she popped up in Facebook under that "People You Might Know" tab that suggests friends. I guess it linked us because we attend the same college. I clicked on her profile to find she was single... but had just gotten out of a relationship. I don't know how long she was in one for, just that she had broken up with her boyfriend.

This leads me to my questions; would it come across as really strange for me to message her on Facebook? I have no other way of contacting her, but I don't know if maybe it's too much to say "hey, remember me, we had a couple of classes together earlier this year, we never really spoke but...". I'm also not sure how long I should leave it after her breakup, since it only seemed to happen in the last week or two, and I don't want to come across like I'm looking to get at her while she's vulnerable, because that really isn't it at all - I really like this girl, and from 30 seconds looking at her Facebook, we seem to have a fair bit in common - I just don't want to put it off so long that she moves onto another guy. Part of me says to just go for it and part of me says that it's too weird a way to try get in contact with her, even though it's the only method I have.

Any advice would be much appreciated.

Cheers.

Abi

If her relationship isn't long over with, I'd take it handy. Though, I think you should leave her a message, tell her pretty much what you've told us. Tell her that facebook recommended some friends and you recognized her, and thought you'd drop her a line to see how she's getting along with her course work. Once some conversation starts, you'll be able to gauge things with her.