Why do i find life so hard sometimes

k_H

Hi all.
i dont know if its normal to feel this way, but i rarely get much enjoyment from everyday life. When im in a good mood things a grand but the most part of the time im self concious, I dont laugh as much as others. I want to do things, but theres always somethings stoping me!!My freinds would never describe me as this way, to others im sociable happy nd fun, but i dont feel this way. I alwys feel awkward talkng to people.

i never know what to say so end up sitting there just listening whats going on and dont get involved much, as i feel like im not good enough most times and that no one listens to me. But im deep inside i just want to let loose and be the best i can be, as most people would describe me as a chatty person!!

its frustrating when i cant be myself, and doubht myself. i wish i could look at the bright side of life and enjoy it, enjoy peoples company and have people enjoy me! to be able to have as much fun as i can, not e so hostlie and just be at ease when talking to others!!I'm 16, and my mu says that these years are tough, but things get easier as you get older. is this just a cliche?


If you have any tips, and books i can read, anything that may help i would be very greatful!

shannon_tek

I hear you in some aspects of your post. But i think life is just hard on us all. Each one is different and just need to handle life differently. you may see others being able to laugh and really get in. But i think a friend of mine when i asked them sorta the same thing said that its a mental block a guard that you just cant let down. I myself experience the same problem feel that im invisible. But i feel its just practise on Charisma and just spending a lot more time out with friends and pushing yourself to get involved and if you say something stupid hey you could be the funny person not the easiest thing but ppl do like you for it. Ya its a bit hard to jump into a conversation. But if hear a topic you know alot about then join in. I know it may not be as easy as that. but you can read books and articles as much as you want but its a physical thing and needs to be pushed. I dont know if my post is any help but im just saying as my life is. and your mam is right its not a Cliché. Teen years are hard. Dont ask me why i question myself everyday. Im still waiting for things to get easy. but im only 18 still have a life ahead of me

shannon_tek

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LegacyUser

yup it gets better, trust me. Good thing is you can mess up all you want and there are little repercussions when your younger so live everyday like your last and learn as much as you can(in all respects)

It will seem like the end of the world now but you will hardly remember it when your older, just dont be afraid to push yourself. Best things in life you have to push for nobody else will sadly

RuthieC

I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling like that OP. You sound frustrated, as well as sad, at the fact you can't put your real self out there. Most of us feel that way at some point in our life.

What do you mean by good enough? Most of the time my friends talk they're babbling on about some kind of rubbish and make no sense at all, but I still love them to bits. I'm sure your friends would be the same. And even if you feel out of your depth in a conversation, then speak up and ask what things mean or ask people to explain. Nobody knows everything about everything. You're human, not google!

One mantra that has got me through a lot, especially having courage is... I choose fun over fear! Try it out. Hope you feel better x