Taking a wild shot in the Daylight.

LegacyUser

Simple Q really. How do people react to been approached during the day? (outside the pub!:))

On the train, in college, coffee shops etc etc, I see great looking ladies all the time and think to myself, why not take a shot and start a conversation.

But, I also think to myself as an after thought, i'm either gonna come across as:

A. Really confident.
B. A salesman.
C. A known weirdo, chatting up is a pub/club activity only!

Thing is, id nearly prefer it to the aforementioned pubs/clubs. No music to shout over, more authentic without drink flowing and no mates taking notes of progress..or lack of it!

LegacyUser

I think it's great to be approached in daylight!! It makes the guy seem confident automatically! I'd be very flattered and would defo give the guy my number - as long as he wasnt coming across as creepy or overly-interested! Be as casual as possible! I wish this happened more!

Queen-Mise

OP go for it. Be aware at night time - you will see the boyfriend more than likely with the girl. A lot of the girls may have boyfriends.

You don't ask, you don't get. Seize the day :cool:

Up-n-atom!

I think it's a great idea - if I had the balls I'd be doing it too! I think people will be polite enough, even if they're not interested. A neighbour got approached crossing a footbridge in Dublin one day by a man who asked her out point blank. She is married, so she turned him down, but she was flattered and didn't abuse him or anything. You never know, you could be making someone's day!

cantdecide

I asked out our receptionist during work recently. I'm no Don Juan but if you meet someone nice, why not ask them. What's the worst she can say?

She turned me down but it was worth it to see her blush I mentioned it to friends who called me a dark horse but it seemed like a perfectly natural thing to do...

Sibylla

You should go for it, I think people have this preconceived idea that nightclubs, pubs are the only place for socialising but this is not everyones scene.
The worst that can happen is she says no

ongarboy

I agree. Anywhere should be a potential opportunity to make such a move. I know I'm generalising a bit but I do think many Irish people have created a comfort zone for themselves where it is only acceptable to be forward in a pub/club setting with alcohol most likely consumed.

In the States, asking for dates/phone numbers is acceptable in bus queues, at the fruit and veg aisle, the coffee queue...anywhere...and not seen as forward at all but here in Ireland, both the initiator and the recipient of the attention could potentially see it as a bit too forward.

This is where confidence (not arrogance) comes into play (a very attractive quality to the interested party) so that even in those circumstances where the person of interest does not reciprocate the interest, you will not be put out and retreat into a shell. Confidence means you will view it as their loss and not worry about the A, B and C concerns you listed in your OP. Go ahead and sieze the opportunity!!

RuthieC

A way to avoid the 'creep' worry is to start off with 'I've never done this before, but...' That way you don't seem like you're scouring bus stops for dates, and you also make her feel special(ish). Happy flirting!

santana75

OP442 wrote: »

Simple Q really. How do people react to been approached during the day? (outside the pub!:))

On the train, in college, coffee shops etc etc, I see great looking ladies all the time and think to myself, why not take a shot and start a conversation.

But, I also think to myself as an after thought, i'm either gonna come across as:

A. Really confident.
B. A salesman.
C. A known weirdo, chatting up is a pub/club activity only!

Thing is, id nearly prefer it to the aforementioned pubs/clubs. No music to shout over, more authentic without drink flowing and no mates taking notes of progress..or lack of it!

Tread carefully man. Women will say things like "I'd love a guy to approach me on the street" but when it actually happens they're freaked out and label the guy a weirdo. I've seen it happen.
What women say they want or like is rarely what they really would like, their actions dont match up wtih their words. Doesnt make sense but thats the way it is. Im not saying it cant be done, it absolutley can, but you gotta really know what you're doing before you stick your neck out.

Azureus

^ Some, not all women. You should tread carefully with your generalisations.

OP, Do it! I met my current boyfriend of 3+ years through an encounter in a park where he came up to me and randomly told me I was beautiful. Now he knew some of the people I was with, but it was still deadly to have that be an opening line. Not creepy, a lil forward, but maybe thats what the Irish dating scene needs.

I have been given a phone number on a subway receipt by my local Subway guy, and the other day I was asked out to the cinema by a guy who walks by my desk in work who Id only ever spoken to twice. Now I know this makes me sound totally up my own ass but this has happened to loads of my friends (and a hell of a lot more often too!). Its not THAT unusual, and the more usual it becomes the better imo.

How many threads a week are there on here with people looking for new friends or to widen their social circle? If we had a more open approach to relationships and friendships, rather than hook ups in clubs then we would have a much nicer society imo and people wouldnt have these kind of issues.

Bring it on

thebaldsoprano

OP a friend of mine got a few dates doing this but he's a very confident bloke and has no problems laughing at himself when he gets turned down, which happens a good bit too. If you've a sense of humour about it then why not, me, I simply wouldn't have the balls..

Queen-Mise

cantdecide wrote: »

I asked out our receptionist during work recently. I'm no Don Juan but if you meet someone nice, why not ask them. What's the worst she can say?

She turned me down but it was worth it to see her blush I mentioned it to friends who called me a dark horse but it seemed like a perfectly natural thing to do...

That line says it all for me. Absolute class thing to do.

LegacyUser

^ Some, not all women. You should tread carefully with your generalisations.

OP, Do it! I met my current boyfriend of 3+ years through an encounter in a park where he came up to me and randomly told me I was beautiful. Now he knew some of the people I was with, but it was still deadly to have that be an opening line. Not creepy, a lil forward, but maybe thats what the Irish dating scene needs.

I have been given a phone number on a subway receipt by my local Subway guy, and the other day I was asked out to the cinema by a guy who walks by my desk in work who Id only ever spoken to twice. Now I know this makes me sound totally up my own ass but this has happened to loads of my friends (and a hell of a lot more often too!). Its not THAT unusual, and the more usual it becomes the better imo.

How many threads a week are there on here with people looking for new friends or to widen their social circle? If we had a more open approach to relationships and friendships, rather than hook ups in clubs then we would have a much nicer society imo and people wouldnt have these kind of issues.

Bring it on

+1 happened to me once in a pub, was with a few friends and ordering drinks, the third time i did the bar guy handed me a receipt with his number on it! ended up going on a date with him but it didn't work out because we lived so far away from each other, and i have a friend who's been asked out twice by guys in shops she used to frequent.
Seems to be becoming more common! Wish it would happen to me more often that's for sure!! Definitely go for it OP, it's very flattering