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LegacyUser

I will try keep this short.
If you where out with a friend, and they were flirty with you and others too, but then all of a sudden they held your hand and squeezed it very thightly for longer than would be normal, and then just let go. What would you think?

LegacyUser

maybe I could give information more.
I like this guy, but he not available (reasons I dont want to go into)

solarpowergirl wrote: »

I will try keep this short.
If you where out with a friend, and they were flirty with you and others too, but then all of a sudden they held your hand and squeezed it very thightly for longer than would be normal, and then just let go. What would you think?

cantdecide

If it was out of character, I'd think 'That was intriguing' no more, no less. If there's more to this story, it's probably too early to figure out if it was significant. It depends on how affectionate your friend is usually and how affectionate he is after a few sociables.

An affectionate person might do these things and they would mean nothing other than being affectionate among friends. Most of your issue is based around how you felt about it.

I'd think they were looking to get with someone. Wouldn't take it personally to be honest.

Overheal

Very little to go off of. Nothing worth over-examining anyway.

LegacyUser

Hi

thank you for replies, he is flirty bloke, but doesnt do it too much to me. He is very vary with me I thinks. We are very close friends, and have never had relationship. But I like him, but he is in and out of relationships with other girls.

He says one thing about how we are just friends, but then he actions say something else. My question was if someone held your hand like that and kept squeezing it and just smiled at you, would you just think nothing of it???
the same night, I made silly joke when he flirty and said you love me dont you haha etc...and he looked me like I say something horrible and walk away...so strange..

sorry about my english.

cantdecide

solarenergygirlgirlagain wrote: »

...he is flirty bloke, but doesnt do it too much to me...have never had relationship...he is in and out of relationships with other girls...He says one thing about how we are just friends...I made silly joke when he flirty and said you love me dont you haha etc...and he looked me like I say something horrible and walk away..My question was if someone held your hand like that and kept squeezing it and just smiled at you, would you just think nothing of it?...

To me, that sounds like 'friendsville'. That means that he just think about you romantically, I'm afraid. That's a shame for you. We have all been there. You can either confront him and see if he has feelings for you or leave things as they are but I wouldn't be confident he will admit he has feelings for you.

LegacyUser

you think he wants to be just friends yes?? you probably correct. Although sometimes I dont think he does. He told me he wants to be friends, and loves me. But I do not like that he does not want me and is jealous if I like or have somebody for me.

cantdecide wrote: »

To me, that sounds like 'friendsville'. That means that he just think about you romantically, I'm afraid. That's a shame for you. We have all been there. You can either confront him and see if he has feelings for you or leave things as they are but I wouldn't be confident he will admit he has feelings for you.

Taltos

OP - lets keep this one simple.
You have said he is not avaiable - end of.

Whatever you might imagine is going on there - if anything is - it is only for an ego boost for himself. Until such time as he is single you need to ignore any imagined signs.
Better yet - go out and meet some other folk - and if he is ever flrty with you tell him to cop the f on... Otherwise this will all just mess even more with your head and you will never find happiness.

cantdecide

There is a friend of mine that sounds a bit like him- a good looking ladies man but also with a soft side and genuine side. He always had girls that he would be close friends with while having many casual relationships with other girls.

I fear that he needs you to be one of his girl friends instead of his girlfriend.