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Sexual Health Issues

  • 25-02-2011 02:10AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi Chaps,

    Going unregistered for this one and I know there's a few threads on this already but I'd still like to get opinions from people on my own personal circumstances.

    Essentially I'm a man in my late 20's and in the last few years I have been having serious problems downstairs. For a long time now I have been having greater and greater difficulty in getting an erection, whether it be when with a woman or even when attempting to masturbate. Although I'm not a virgin I haven't had sex in a number of years because of this issue and it seems to be getting worse.

    Mow I accept that a somewhat decreased libido foes with the process of aging but I don't think it should be as severe as it is in my case. Before people say things like get fit or sort out your diet I'll point out that I'm pretty fit already, I play football, squash and go to the gym regularly, eat well, drink probably less than many of my peers and don't smoke at all. I've seen other posts where this is advised but do not think lifestyle is an issue for me. Of course there may be a psychological component that I don't discount but due to the inclusive and constant nature of the problem I think it may be physiological.

    The most pressing question I have is who can I see about this? I know a lot of people will say go see your GP. Now it's not a case of I'm too embarrassed to do this but rather I suspect it may be the other way around! My GP is a family friend, and although I don't doubt his professionalism and confidentiality, I still think he may be awkward given that he is friends with my parents etc. In addition a friend of mine also had a problem similar to this and went to see his GP. Apparently this doctor got very awkward with my friend which had put me off addressing this with my guy! So is there anyone else I can go to?!

    Any advice appreciated!!!


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  • #2
    Bottle_of_Smoke
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    Go to a different GP if you don't want to face that situation. I'm sure doctors are well used to people coming to them just for penis problems knowing they have a general GP somewhere else.

    It could be psychological but like you said first you gotta rule out physiological problems.


  • #3
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Could you not call your own surgery and request a different doctor? I'm not sure why you'd have a doctor you can't attend for all ailments, perhaps look into moving practice altogether?

    All the best.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP,
    This is a common problem, I know you may think something is wrong with you but believe me you are very young to be having a physical problem.
    But it is not entirely out of the realms of possibility. you need to go to a doctor. You will need blood works done and possibly a visit to a urologist also. You have to be told, and believe that there is nothing physically wrong before you can move on.

    Next is no physical problem is there you need to go to a psychologist. A lot of times guys get caught in a loop where they fail to get an erection once or twice and then the anxiety builds up and when this happens it can be a block and it may take a while to remove that. It may be a slow road but there are answers and remember it is just like any other medical condition try not to be embarassed, just focus on getting healthy.

    Good Luck.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP - I have / had same issue as you. It more or less started very suddenly about 5 weeks ago. For me, I guessed it might have been age related as I am late 40's. I also thought that it may have been stressed related. But there was no point in me speculating as to possible causes - I had to talk to someone that knew what they were talking about.

    Our family GP is also a family friend, and while I go to his surgery with the kids etc, I felt awkward about discussing this issue with him. So, I went to a GP close to my place of work. Never went to him before and don't know anything about him. Initially, I thought that I would not be able to discuss an issue such as this, but had made my mind up before I went in, that I wanted this sorted now & that I was not going to hold back any info and literally put all my cards on the table - for my own sake and my wife's.

    The GP was fantastic !! Issue is more or less gone now. Still a few things to be done but essentially, the best thing I did. Find a GP perhaps close to your work place, where you can have a bit of annomity. You are not the only man, and will not be the only man to have this issue. I think the recent ads on TV & radio have highlighted the issue for men.

    This is sortable OP - absolutely nothing to worry about. But you have to get to a GP. There is no pain involved. But a lot of peace of mind will be gained.

    Make the call OP - it will be worth it. THIS IS SORTABLE !!!!


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