Feeling bad

LegacyUser

That's all. I'm 30+ years old, married with kids and I think I fell in love with a girl.

I feel terrible. We will not be together, we haven't even had sex, but since we decided (well, I decided) not to contact anymore my heart is bleeding. I can't be responsible for what I'm feeling and I swear I would love to get rid of it as soon as possible. Currently I'm on z-drugs, I couldn't eat for a past couple of days and I can't stop thinking of her. I know that the only way to get through it is to wait. I'm feeling physically sick when I pass by the places we used to meet, etc. I would see her on a daily basis, which would only increase the bad.. I dug my own hole, I know.

If you know anything that can help me to get back on track - post away.

Thanks.

OhMeOhMy

Meeting daily? You've basically had an affair and are now looking for sympathy?

Ickle Magoo

If you want to end the relationship and save your marriage then a marriage counsellor would be a good place to start...presumably all is not well at home if you are able to fall head over heels for someone else?

LegacyUser

I will be seeing her in work. It wasn't an affair, I quit before it turned into one. I don't want to feel what I am feeling and I am not looking for sympathy. I wish I could control what I feel.

Wompa1

feeling bad wrote: »

I will be seeing her in work. It wasn't an affair, I quit before it turned into one. I don't want to feel what I am feeling and I am not looking for sympathy. I wish I could control what I feel.

Well I won't beat you over the head with it I guess. But you are doing the right thing...this other girl would most likely have fizzled out eventually. What you have with your wife is most likely deeper than what you'd have had with this other girl. You will get over this other girl with time..maybe you could take the oppurtunity to distract yourself by giving your focus to your wife...why not go on a weekend away? rekindle your spark?

sbsquarepants

To be honest it sounds like an infatuation that got out of control. Everyone gets attracted to other people, married or not, doesn't make a difference. I doubt very much that you actually love her, in fact it sounds like you hardly know her! However it does sound like everything is not going well with the missus and you are basically projecting your feelings onto this other girl. My advice is to try forget about her and focus on your wife and kid and rekindling your marriage. At least be sure you gave it your best shot before you mess it up entirely.
Also what are z-drugs?

talkin

my advice is that as a woman the emotional betrayel will hurt your wife as much as an actual full blown affair. if you love you wife and family block the new woman out of your life. a fling isnt worth ruining everything uv worked at for years.