Engagement Fear

iwannagoonstric

hey, ive been going out with my oh for years now and he has started talking about getting engaged. We always did kind of talk about it, but it was the usual blah blah blah bs. So, about month ago he got all serious and said that we should go window shopping for an engagement ring. Which we did, about 2 weeks ago. it was very strange as i actually ended up trying rings on. Unfortunatly we had some bad news so the porposal is off for now id say, but 1) did anyone else feel a bit sick with nerves when they were trying on the rings (he was eerily clam about it) and 2)how the heck did you ever decide on one cuz they are all so lovely!! He would like me to pick, but id rather that he picks because i really dont want to put any pressure on him (price etc) i noticed that day that the sales person asked what kind of rings to show us budget wise... but then landed up with ones way out of our price range - craft!! 3) what did u do while you waited on the actual proposal. Im dying to tell somebody but can't!!!

smelltheglove

On reading the title I thought this was going to be you didnt want to get engaged - phew, Ive been engaged 2.5 times hahaha, some stories there I tell ya.

Anyway I chose my ring, I just knew it when I saw it, I was looking waaaay below what hubbie had budgeted for and actually got one for a good bit under budget but it was perfect! I told only my sister but the proposal was still a surprise, the amount of times I thought it was going to happen and didnt. Best surprise other people but I shared the excitement with my sister.

If you really feel you would prefer him to choose then tell him that, but you know now so why not share the experience.

moco

I'm in a similar situation! We decided to get engaged 2 weeks ago but we're not telling anyone til we get the ring mext month! I'm bursting to tell my mum and can barely even ring her in case I accidentally on purpose drop a massive hint lol.

I haven't reied on a ring yet! We were looking around some shops at the weekend and we were both very nervous in the shop. So mush so that he leaned on a display in De Beers and nearly knocked it over.:o

Just look at loads of rings online til something starts jumping out at you. I have a clear idea in my head now of what I want (I think) and we're getting it made.

Sorry about your setback, hope you get to tell everyone soon.

newbride11

I'm engaged but I'm waiting on the ring so we've kept it to ourselves but I have to say this forum is fantastic to ask questions, get ideas & tell complete strangers you're engaged & remain anonymous!

We had the 'talk' loads of times but it wasn't until we ended up outside a jewellers that I got a bit nervous. Now the nerves were that I hadn't a clue about rings or what they cost. We went to a few different jewellers in different cities & I didn't find any of them particularly helpful & a few were quite rude.

So I bit the bullet & took myself into a jeweller that most of my family go to & asked to see what he had. He has a gorgeous selection & went through each ring with me & explained the difference with each one. As it happened I didn't see anything that had the wow factor so he's in the middle of making one to suit what I want & the budget we have.

And if you can't choose a ring then pick two or three different ones that you like & get your fiance to pick the one so you still get a little surprise when he produces it.


Best of luck with everything & keep us updated when you break the news to family & friends!

iwannagoonstric

yeah, i was exactly the same, the amount of times we had the 'when we get married' talk, but it seemed so far away. We've only gone to a few jewelers in limerick, kind of picked two that I liked and told him to pick. kind of want to milk my moment but and go to laods of jewelers!!!! but thats a bit selfish. was the same as the others with the nerves, it was a bit surreal,, i felt like a bit of a tit in the jewelers as we are only 'provisionally engaged' so happy to tell everyone on boards!!! but dont want to jinks it!

tobsey

I am engaged also and we had numerous chats of "when we get married". I had always dreamed of a Tiffany setting ring as I had seen it online. Then we went to London and he brought me in to try rings on (i had no idea we were going there)! I felt physically sick while trying them on and he was as cool as a cucumber. I left the shop and felt relieved/shocked as I didn't like the ring on my finger!So in the end I went to a jewellers that was recommended to us and I explained what type I would like. I liked two particular rings and they made one for me combining the two styles. My fiance wanted to do the whole proposal surprise thing so I gave the details to him and I was left waiting. I thougth it was going to be every occassion that arrived. He did leave me waiting for 10 months but it was the biggest surprise. We both got what we wanted,I got the ring I liked and he got to do the proposal surprise he wanted. We were able to put our budget on it and they even reduced money off at time of payment.I did tell people because I was too excited!Happy ring shopping anyway!

iwannagoonstric

oh jesus, are you jokin, if i had to wait ten months it'd kill me!!

iwannagoonstric

Taim ag fanacht fos...wonder has he changed his feckin mind!!

moco

i'd be reminding him pretty sharpish lol.

ABajaninCork

The only surprise with my proposal was the timing!

Anyway, as my now hubby was in London, we hotfooted it to Hatton Garden to have a look. Walked up and down Hatton Garden, saw a few I liked, but nothing jumped out at me. In the end, as we got to the last shop, my husband saw two he liked and asked me to try them on. One was a solitaire with a bigger diamond that looked 'all right' but I wasn't sold. The other was a cheaper and smaller diamond (still .5 carat), but it looked right, so we got it!