I Hate Where I Live

LegacyUser

God, I hate where I'm currently living but I really can't afford to move, so I'm stuck here! Where do I start with the problems? There are three floors - one housemate downstairs who complains about the mess in the bathroom, yet is the person that causes most of the mess. Then there's a couple that constantly fight, argue and seemingly act like they run the house, which greatly annoys me considering I've been living here a year longer than them. They are rude to the other housemates a lot and cause most of the tension that exists in this house. Then there's me and after that there is a scumbag who lives in a box room. He is a waster, has been fired from any job he has ever had, brings a lot of **** in to the house (whether it be drunken friends that cause damage or the cops, who have been called twice because of him). Then upstairs there's a girl who works constantly but any time she's here she doesn't clean up after herself, she never puts anything towards the house, never cleans the house and is just irritating like hell. She shares the room with her boyfriend, who has been practically living here for over a month. Since their room is above ours, we are subjected to loud sex (God, have some respect you dirty whore - OK, that might be a bit mean, but I'm mad as hell!), constant moving around - they also have a dog that they make **** in out garden so it is almost literally covered in dog****.

I am almost ashamed to bring anybody back here, because it's usually in such a state. If I had the money, I'd be gone straight away, but I'm stuck here. The landlord does sod all, just comes and collects the rent and that's it. It's greatly annoying me and causing no end of grief!

If I had the money, I'd be gone straight away

Sounds like a terrible situation to be in. Could you not sacrifice on location/convenience or something to find somewhere cheaper? There must be somewhere else affordable. As for the couple who act like they own the place, I've got to say that there are few things I find more annoying than when couples try to play house before they have one. Ugh.

I really hope things get better, everyone deserves somewhere to come home to and relax. Good luck.

Chuchoter

Surely if you looked hard enough you could find somewhere else on the same rent, it might not be quite as big/nice but you would be away from all these people.

funkey_monkey

Can you provide more information - why can you not move out? Is the rent much cheaper where you are than elsewhere?

Do you work or student?

You say "Since their room is above ours" infers to me that there is you and another person together, correct?

Is there nothing that you can both sort out here? Have you spoken to the landlord?

LegacyUser

Jesus Christ, I'm almost at bursting point. The ignorant bitch upstairs brought people back, talking extremely loudly and waking me up. Now I can't get back to sleep because she's still talking loudly. It's gotten to the point that I'm embarrassed to bring anybody back to stay the night if I can't get a proper night's sleep with that bitch. I am seriously, seriously, seriously, seriously about to lose it with everything.

To make things worse, I am in my final year of college so I shouldn't have to deal with this kind of ****. I shouldn't have to look for a new place, which would be taking up valuable time and I couldn't afford any deposits/first months rent anyway, because the deposit on this place was only €150 and realistically I'd have to pay about €150 extra for the deposit alone, let alone the first month rent.

It's now 3:15 and she's still banging away upstairs. I'm going to go up to her tomorrow and tell her to cop the **** on. I can't handle this any more. I really, really, really, really can't.

I also can't move in with anyone else because it's just going to be the same stupid stuff all over again. I cannot live with housemates any more. They're all just <snip> who really shouldn't be allowed to live outside of their family homes.

****. This.

Ickle Magoo

I appreciate you are getting extremely frustrated with the situation but ranting and swearing at us isn't going to help and nor is it the purpose of this forum. You have been given advice and hopefully you are doing something to help yourself by taking heed of that advice; there is a ranting and raving forum here if you just want to let off steam. :cool:

funkey_monkey

Did you speak to her this morning - if so how did it go?

Can your uni not find you some temporary accomodation - i.e. in their halls of residence. Take a look. These few months will be stressful enough for you without having to deal with this as well.

LegacyUser

Housemates Suck wrote: »

I also can't move in with anyone else because it's just going to be the same stupid stuff all over again. I cannot live with housemates any more. They're all just <snip> who really shouldn't be allowed to live outside of their family homes.

I've been living in shared accommodation for about 15 years now (since being 18). Only once did I have major problems (and I got said problem removed quickly). Pick your places carefully, and really avoid any place with more than 4 people in total (3 or 4 is ideal IMHO).

Being in university is a big source of problems right there - a lot of more serious flatmates will reject living with uni students off hand (unless they are mature students). Not that it does you much good at the moment, but your options for sane flat shares dramatically improve after uni and with a job.

Denerick

Get a bedsit. I can't live with people other than close friends or family. Too much bullshít involved. You never know who you're getting.

cantdecide

I know it's frustrating but it's important to not lose the rag and go off on one. My dad says that no one wins in a row. I can't stress that enough. Identify your biggest problems (sounds like the girl upstairs to me) and confront her. Be calm but firm. Tell her what you want and don't raise tour voice

I'm in the lucky situation where I can afford to live with just one mate. It makes things infinitely less complicated than 3 / 4 or more. I can totally empathize because my brother has a similar situation to yours.

The only practical advice I can give you is that you can buy extra soft ear plugs intended for partners of snorers. They're awesome and not uncomfortable to wear overnight.