am i a selfish hussy?

LegacyUser

im recently out of a crap 'relationship' with a guy who couldnt commit and strung me along for years. it was tough and left me feeling totally down, upset and lacking in confidence.
i have had no interest in any other man for years.

to the point, i did something recently that was totally out of character for me, something i swore i would never do.
i was with a married man. im not young. i understand these things happen, it was just never something i was interested in. once i knew they were married, they just were not on the radar for me. they didnt exist romantically speaking!

the guy is someone i have known casually for years. i dont know his wife. we were drunk( not an excuse, just the truth!) he asked if we could meet again.

im not interested in having an affair. im not mad about him, nor is there a chance i will be, we get on well, just casual friends. i have had flings with people in the past (single people) and i have been in love. i know the difference between the guys, how it feels. this would be just another one off.

i have no experience of married guys. im not looking for a lecture here, i know all the moral issues, i dont want people saying he is married, he wont leave his wife etc. etc. i dont want him to.

my question really is, should i go for it for one more night? it has given me a new confidence since it happened. i feel like i am attractive again and it feels good to think someone wanted me. i also know that makes me selfish. i know it sounds like i dont give a crap about other people, im usually not like that, at all!
i think i would enjoy one more night.

is there anyone with experience of this? how did it go? i feel i need to weigh it up before i say yes or no.

Ickle Magoo

I think if you have to poll strangers on a discussion forum then no, you shouldn't do it again. If you really wanted to and you really had no second thoughts or guilt issues, you wouldn't have to discuss it with anyone - far less publicly ask if you should go for it again or not...you'd be happy in your own skin and be able to make a decision yourself.

Tbh, for all the fun and ego boost another persons partner wanting or pursuing you may be - the fact they only want a secret shag probably due to issues in their own relationship rather than actually wanting you is not going to help your confidence or your opinion of men in the longer term.

All the best.

LegacyUser

op here again, as soon as i wrote this i realised this is something i could never do.

just seeing it in writing opened my eyes!

not something i will be doing again.

could you please lock or delete this mods? i really dont need advice at all anymore. thks for your reply ickle