Porn

LegacyUser

Not sure if this is the correct place to post, but just want to know if someone has had this experience before.
Basically my OH has r*pe porn on his computer.
I don't like this but I haven't confronted him about it either.
Is this normal for guys to want to watch this type of porn?

chicken fingers

Not normal, but don´t jump to any conclusions before you talk to him.
Its possible you can click on one thing and a filename may be different.
Id want to be totally certain that that is exactly what he searched for before confronting him.

Ickle Magoo

It depends what you mean by "on his computer"....is it a file he down-loaded and saved in a "my fave rape porn" folder or is it in his browsing history and as such very possibly an accidental click, dodgy advertising link or curiosity getting the better of him?

Regardless, the only way to deal with any issue you have is to talk to him and have an honest discussion and see if you are comfortable/can live with his response.

All the best

DamagedTrax

i guess since some women have rape fantasies, it wouldnt be uncommon for some blokes to have them too? i wouldnt consider it healthy myself but ive learned a long time ago that trying to understand peoples sexual thinking is impossible.

but it is just that, a fantasy.

Elle Collins

Firstly, as another poster said, you need to be sure it didn't pop up in his history without his intent as porn sometimes does. (You'd want to see some of the crap that's popped up in my face on this computer!)

If he has saved it deliberatly then you need to decide how you feel about that, but I should point out that if you were fine with his getting off on watching women being demeaned in the worst way imaginable I doubt you'd be posting here about it.

Motley Crue

If he has saved this material on his computer I would consider this wrong, and personally I wouldn't accept it, I would confront him and ask him to remove such disgusting images as they degrade yourself and any woman photographed

WhatWillBee

Its perfectly fine OP, and I wouldn't worry.

Porn is for fantasies, and as long as you are happy with your own love life and feel he is respectful to you then I wouldn't bother fretting over this stuff.

Most women have rape fantasies (incl myself), doesn't mean they want it to happen in real life or negate the seriousness of such a crime in real life. Its just a fantasy. Your OH is totally normal even if its not to your taste.

If your relationship is fine outside of this then I would just let him have his fantasies and enjoy your life together.

(Also just to say, I'm assuming this is not a video of an actual rape but just 'rape porn' as in consensual roleplaying.)

Pyr0

You'll find "rape porn" isn't actually "rape" at all. It's tends to be quite aggressive and demeaning sexual acts, any mainstream 'rape porn' would involve willing participants on both sides. Unless of course, it's actually a rape clip which would of course be quite sick and twisted to have saved on your PC.

LegacyUser

Op, unless it's an real clip of an actual rape, please don't go jumping on him about it or thinking he weird or twisted. Fantasies are fantasies, and porn is a way of exploring those fantatsies. Obviously I don't know your OH, but I wouldn't think there's anything sinister about it. Different things can turn different people on, and those things just happen to sometimes not be one of the accepted "norms" I've accidentaly wondered onto "rape" porn before and found myself being turned on by it (I'm a girl btw) Doesn't mean I'm twisted or anything, I think the reason it turned me on is because I like a little bit of bondage and power play. The feeling of someone having that control over me is a massive turn on for me, and I guess "rape" porn is somewhat the same in that I know it's not real rape, the people are role playing, and it is alot about having power over someone.

Maybe if you haven't done so before you should talk to your OH, dig for his fantasies, if he does have bondage/power play fantasies then I would think that ties in massively with what you've found. Just remember we humans are very curious beings, and you often have to experience something to find out what it really does for you, he very well could have been watching it out of sheer curiousity.

Regardless of what we think of it, if it bothers you, it's worth talking about it to him. Let him know how you feel about and give him a chance to explain it to you. The worst thing to do here is let your worries go unsaid.