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sort of a shallow question

  • 20-02-2011 2:58pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I recently met a guy that I really like in lots of ways...personality, intelligence, temperament, lovely eyes...I like how he looks apart from one thing...his teeth. I've just talked to him a few times and I kinda get the impression he likes me but I don't know for sure.
    Anyway, I know this may seem like a silly question but has anyone any advice of any kind regarding this. His teeth may just be really stained but they look really bad and I just don't know if I can get over that. It kind of repulses me that maybe he hasn't looked after them more so than the look of them but maybe if I did get involved with him I could get over it...It just feels like such a shame since I like him in every other way.


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  • #2
    James400
    Closed Accounts Posts: 89 ✭✭James400


    I've heard this one before but the other way around. She's a lovely girl but she's a bit overweight etc....


  • #3
    Ickle Magoo
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    James400 - as per the forum charter, could you offer the OP constructive advice or kindly refrain from posting.

    Be aware that off-topic and unhelpful posting can earn you a ban from this forum.

    If you haven't already done so, please take the time to read the forum rules in the charter.

    Many thanks.
    Ickle


  • #4
    star-pants
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    On one hand, you like everything else about him is it really a big deal?

    On the other, it's a lie if people say that looks don't matter, on some level yes they do, and moreso sometimes in the beginning when you need that initial attraction.

    Thing is, he may have a deep fear of dentists or he could have a condition that's got his teeth that way, or maybe he was a smoker etc. If you would feel happier knowing it wasn't that he just 'didn't bother' looking after his teeth and that it was something out of his control you could always bring something up casually in conversation (although if his teeth are that bad, he'll be aware), as in that you have to go to the dentist or how many fillings you have.

    As you say it would be a shame to not see if this could be something decent just because of the look of his teeth (I assume he brushes them because otherwise he'd probably have very bad breath). I have fillings in almost every one of my teeth, and that's not from lack of care, I've always taken extra good care of my teeth, but even the dentist said there's not much I can do as my teeth are very crevassed on the top which means I'm just prone to cavities. I don't like that I've so many fillings but what can I do?

    So long story short - either see if you can find out a reason that might sate your concern / get over it / walk away.
    But if he's someone you really click with, it would be a shame.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the advice...I figured those were my options but I suppose I just wanted someone else to tell me for some reason.


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