miserable in work :(

poozers

Please take the time to read and Im sorry its so long!!!
Ive been in my job for nearly 5 years now! the last year and half have just been hell...ive had enough of it! I absolutely HATE it! I dont get on with my collegues (theres 3 of us in a tiny little office, looking at eachother all day)! There is constant b!tching and backstabbing going on! its making my life a misery!

Anyway...I wont go on too much about all the little things that happened!!
My problem is is that I want OUT of there!!! i have no useful qualifications, im 25 and dont want to leave this job and go in to an equally sh-it job, but then again ... I cant stand working there...its making me depressed, i feel nauseous in the morning before i go to work...i feel like im not wanted in there, like theyre trying to push me out, id cry most nights before i have work the next morning! im getting panic attacks and im affecting my relationship with my boyfriend because of my mood swings... i just want to hand in my notice and get out of there! ive applied for a few places on jobs.ie but theres nothing there hardly and i havent gotten any calls even though i think my cv is quite good. I want to have "the fear"...just leave my job and that will make me work harder to find a new one (hopefully) but obviously in our economy these days, its quite hard to find work! and the work itself is fine, but its the people i work with and the head management i cant deal with anymore...
and i have been feeling like this for the last year and a half...I have no money saved to go off travelling (which i really want to do anyway)! im not really willing to move county or anything cos all my friends and family are here...every one is SICK of listening to me moan and complain about work....my hobbies and the things i love doing wouldnt be able to make me a living... I dont think id be able to go back to college for 4 years...i went to 2 different universities over the years and dropped out both times...
I feel HOPELESS...my parents wouldnt support my decision to quit my job at all unless i had something else, and their support would mean alot to me... I dont know what to do!!! but i think my general well being and happiness is the most important thing right now! i read A LOT of "how to make the most of a job you hate" type of articles (like on Yahoo.ie today) but i think im gone beyond any of the tips they give!!! please help,
Has anyone been in this situation before???
What did you do to get yourself out of the rut???
thanks so much for reading and replying (hopefully )

claireeney

i have a job i love but the people around me drive me CRAZY!! im in an office of ~30 people. supposed to be a quiet office but people never shut up. b1tchin, backstabbin, idle gossip, talking nonsense etc. i feel like screaming in there. i like the work so much i wont leave and have taken to clamping on earphones every day. i also lose my temper regularly so people are quiet around me for a while.

i dont know what to say op, either learn to ignore the people around you and get on with the job or really get crackin on findin a new one. but believe me, you wont find a workplace without the noisy, 2 faced b1tches.

dellas1979

Can you not get your education part-time? i.e. work full-time and study part-time, or work say 4 days a week, and study the rest.

Thats the way the rest of us in the world have to do it.

It will make going into work that bit easier, because you have something to work towards. You are living in a bubble at the moment with all your work anxieties, and its become your world and your reality, when in fact its not at all. Its a job at the end of the day-not your life.

Also, during this period of say 2 years studying for example, you could start putting a few quid away each week/month, and then in 2 years youll have some qualifications, ready to travel, and pack in the job.

But I dont know if it is because of the situation you are in at the moment, or if you are like this all the time, put your post reeks of being a "glass is half empty" type person - as in you'll always find ways to stop yourself - "I cant...." and never do the things that you want.

sam34

poozers wrote: »

Ive been in my job for nearly 5 years now! the last year and half have just been hell...ive had enough of it! I absolutely HATE it!

My problem is is that I want OUT of there!!!

i have no useful qualifications,

ive applied for a few places on jobs.ie but theres nothing there hardly and i havent gotten any calls even though i think my cv is quite good.

and i have been feeling like this for the last year and a half...

I have no money saved to go off travelling (which i really want to do anyway)!

im not really willing to move county or anything cos all my friends and family are here...

I dont think id be able to go back to college for 4 years...i went to 2 different universities over the years and dropped out both times...

OP this may sound harsh, but a lot of this is your own doing and within your ability to fix

you've been in the job 5 years yet say you have no useful qualifications.... surely there were opportunities in those 5 years to advance your career and build up your cv? why didnt you do a qualification part-time, at night or something, while working?

you had the opportunity twice to get a qualification, but dropped out - why? those were fantastic opportunities, plenty of people would have been delighted to get a place in university, not to mind two places. yeah, sometimes college is crap but its a means to an end, short term pain etc

you wont consider going back to college. rules out a lot of opportunities for you.

you wont even move county. (county, not country, ffs). you know what, sometimes if you want job opportunities you gotta suck it up and make hard decisions, otherwise you will end up stuck in the same job you hate. in the last four years i have moved county 4 times because thats where the job was for me... it was stressful, it was hard, it was isolating.... but i did it because of the job and because it woudl strengthen my cv. of course i'd have preferrred to stay in the one place where my friends and family were, but that would have been no good to me in terms of career plan.

lastly, you've been unhappy in the job for a year and a half and wanting to leave but in that time you havent saved money that would give you a bit of a cushion if you were to leave?

if you seriously want to leave, you need to start being proactive about making yourself desirable and available to potential employers.

LegacyUser

Is college really a big big no no? I know plenty of people that despised it in their youth only to excel in college in the mid/late 20s, mainly because they have a completely different outlook, you sound completely stuck in a rut and staying there could be detrimental to your health

Lux23

In this current economic climate I think it would be a very bad idea for you to leave a job without finding another one.

Im unemployed but even with qualifications and experience it is a real battle to find work, so my advice is to stay where you are until you find something better. Or else you may well find yourself bored on the dole and in an even worse state then you are currently in.

And at 25 I would consider at least part time education, it will make you more employable and you may well enjoy it.

LegacyUser

I was in a similar position. Hated my job to bits, wanted out. Unfortunately for various reasons i couldnt get another job with similar wages due to the downturn.

Now, my job is moving to a low cost region and I wont have a job in a few months. And guess, what, i feel a whole lot worse now, much worse than when i had a job but didnt like it.

My advice, make sure you have another job waiting before you leave yours, you dont realize right now how important it is.

poozers

Thanks for all the replies and your honest opinions! and everyone of you are right!!

Sam34 - Yes, i did have opportunities to advance in my current job, but i didnt take them (stupidly)! and with college, i just dont think i have the concentration or ability to commit to something, and i lost concentration very quickly, and after a long talk with my parents today (i'm not "running home to mammy and daddy" but my dad is a councellor, and he is great for help and encouragement when any of us are having any type of problems!) But anyway, theres a lot of things in my life i totally regret (which isnt right at 25 years of age)! im an extremely shy person and i dont have much confidence in myself when it comes to education and work responsibilities... but im becoming more aware of how i shouldnt be like this, and just bite the bullet and do it! But you're right, it is my own doing, i got too comfy in my job the first few years, and kept putting things off longer and longer, and ive no other excuse than just plain comfort and laziness!!

And with all the comments about going back to college... i've ALWAYS wanted to travel (and again not doing anything about it:o) and kept saying " ill figure out my career once i get the travelling done with"!
But ive really had a good proper think about things today and yesterday! really proper think! nothings just goin to happen unless i do something myself about it!!! im going to stick to my plan with the travelling, get up and do it!

going out tomorrow morning to set up a savings account in the credit union, i know ive got to get out of the job im in now, im done with it, but goin to find something new one first! just use it as a place to save money and get up and start my life!!! im goin to drop my negative attitude, and start thinkin the glass is half FULL instead! ive also signed up and paid for a creative writing course too...so thats a start!

thanks again everyone... i appreciate the honesty and the harshness...its what i need...if yee all told me what i wanted to here, id end up in an even worse situation! and sorry again for the big long reply again... but ive really changed my attitude in the last 24 hours! i know its a bit mad, but i spent last night crying to my boyfriend about how im wasting my life, and thats no way to spend a saturday night (i wasnt out or drinking or anything, we were watchin telly and i just started crying out of nowhere!!!) it was a horrible feeling and no one should ever feel like theyre wasting their lives! but i really appreciate the encouragement and advice! thanks a mill

LegacyUser

well done, remember now this is just the beginning so dont lose heart if you feel your going slightly off track, keep the head up because now you've a target (travelling), even if you cant find a job, you know you can start to countdown to going away.

dellas1979

Good for you. I love to hear about people being proactive about things/problems that they have.

funkey_monkey

I feel similar at times too. So I'm glad you have started to motivate yourself here. Please do stick with it. You are lucky in that your dad is a counsellor which should be a major help to you.

Use him as it is a valuable resource. I spend lots of money on personal sessions with a counsellor to help me.