Why do people who are 'in relationships' use social networking sites?

LighterGuy

Sites like tagged, myspace, hi5 etc etc are basically dating sites as we all know. But how come a certain number of people, who claim to be in relationships, use the site?

Would you be comfortable if your boyfriend/girlfriend using one of these sites?
Would you take it as a sign they are on the look out for other people?


discuss. discuss :P

*edit*
I am not referring to Facebook style of social networking.
FB is mainly used to keep in contact with people you know in the real world.
Other social networking sites (tagged, hi5 etc) are mainly used to talk to people you do not know. Which alot are just dating sites with "social networking" slapped on it.

orourkeda

Cause they want to

brummytom

They're not dating sites at all. I've got 388 friends on facebook and I wouldn't go out with a good 5 or 6 of them.

bluto63

LighterGuy wrote: »

Sites like tagged, myspace, hi5 etc etc are basically dating sites as we all know. But how come a certain number of people, who claim to be in relationships, use the site?

Would you be comfortable if your boyfriend/girlfriend using one of these sites?
Would you take it as a sign they are on the look out for other people?


discuss. discuss :P

We do?

Rowley Birkin QC

Cost they aren't insecure headcases.


that and the perving.

In germany they publically have "cheat on your partner with our dating site" ads

KeithM89_old

Yeah, caus i only add people on Facebook i want to fuck... :rolleyes:

LighterGuy

bluto63 wrote: »

We do?

you should lol

brummytom wrote: »

They're not dating sites at all. I've got 388 friends on facebook and I wouldn't go out with a good 5 or 6 of them.

facebook is a social networking site that mainly consists of you adding people you know in your life. Other social networking sites such as tagged etc are used for talking to people you dont know (usually hooking up)


I guess what Im really talking about would you be comfortable if your partner was on one?

drunkmonkey

LighterGuy wrote: »

Would you take it as a sign they are on the look out for other people?

I'd take it as time to give her a loving squeeze.

haydar

what the hell is tagged?

orourkeda

ronkorp wrote: »

what the hell is tagged?

gagged is better

Snowie

brummytom wrote: »

They're not dating sites at all. I've got 388 friends on facebook and I wouldn't go out with a good 5 or 6 of them.

out of curiosity how many of them have you meet?

brummytom

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

out of curiosity how many of them have you meet?

Except for maybe 7 boardsies, all of them

AnonoBoy

LighterGuy wrote: »

Other social networking sites such as tagged etc are used for talking to people you dont know (usually hooking up)

Talking to people you don't know on the internet, eh?

I wouldn't be into that at all at all LighterGuy.

Red Hand

bluewolf wrote: »

In germany they publically have "cheat on your partner with our dating site" ads

And how did that ad pop up for you, eh?:pac:

Kimono-Girl

KeithM89 wrote: »

Yeah, caus i only add people on Facebook i want to fuck... :rolleyes:

awww

LighterGuy wrote: »

I guess what Im really talking about would you be comfortable if your partner was on one?

no not at all,

what sites he visits are his business not mine, and if he is going to cheat he would do it anyway dating site or no dating site.

i personally use facebook to keep in contact with friends/relatives especially those living abroad.

Mint Sauce

I thought myspace was usally used by up and coming bands.

Caoimhín

I dont know why anyone would use a social network site, i value my privacy too much and im not so egocentric to think that others should know every thought i have or acknowledge every petty act i preform.

LighterGuy

irish-stew wrote: »

I thought myspace was usally used by up and coming bands.

Myspace has really dipped in years. Used to be number 1 site up until 2005ish.

And just for the record i am not talking about Facebook when I mention social networking sites. There are two kinds ... sites that are popularly used to add people you know in real life (fb) and other social networking sites that are popularly used to talk (and meet) with people you dont know :P

(i just expect loads of "facebook is not like that" replies :P )

Novella

I didn't know MySpace was for dating! I had one when I was about 16 and just used it to do stupid surveys instead of studying and for talking to my friends.

Caoimhín

LighterGuy wrote: »

Myspace has really dipped in years. Used to be number 1 site up until 2005ish.

And just for the record i am not talking about Facebook when I mention social networking sites. There are two kinds ... sites that are popularly used to add people you know in real life (fb) and other social networking sites that are popularly used to talk (and meet) with people you dont know :P

(i just expect loads of "facebook is not like that" replies :P )

Please use your inside voice here.

Snowie

brummytom wrote: »

Except for maybe 7 boardsies, all of them

Curious as we were disscussing social networking in a lecture...

Lawrence1895

What's wrong with it anyway? If you trust your partner, you know, he/she is not doing something dodgy, I assume

Snowie

LighterGuy wrote: »

Sites like tagged, myspace, hi5 etc etc are basically dating sites as we all know. But how come a certain number of people, who claim to be in relationships, use the site?

Would you be comfortable if your boyfriend/girlfriend using one of these sites?
Would you take it as a sign they are on the look out for other people?


discuss. discuss :P

I don't really understand your post op... soical networking is a huge, part of life in these days. regardless of what the site is, for you to question. Why some one whos ina reletionship is on tagged, well amybe they like text speak or somink

alwaysadub

I don't really care what type of websites my bf visits. I trust him.

LighterGuy

Caoimhín wrote: »

Please use your inside voice here.

I have no inside voice

LighterGuy

bluewolf wrote: »

In germany they publically have "cheat on your partner with our dating site" ads

Are you serious?! :eek:

squeakyduck

I use facebook to keep in contact with family and friends. I also like to document my nights out too! :D

Jeremiah 16:1

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote: »

And how did that ad pop up for you, eh?:pac:

my bf is always complaining about it, it makes him so angry they have those ads that it's funny

LighterGuy

LighterGuy wrote: »

Are you serious?! :eek:

yeah, on the bilboards and tv

Dudess

First I've heard of MySpace being a dating site. Never heard of the other sites you mention OP.

Caoimhín wrote: »

I dont know why anyone would use a social network site, i value my privacy too much and im not so egocentric to think that others should know every thought i have or acknowledge every petty act i preform.

Oh yeah, if you join a social networking site, you HAVE to do all of the above...
People join social networking sites and do none of those things - they just use it to keep in contact with friends they don't see often, and to see/share photographs. There are lots of privacy settings - to the point of it not being possible to search for you (so concern for privacy is moot) and status updates are optional. Then there are people who don't use any privacy settings, have five million friends, and post stuff like "Having a cup of tea - mmmm" but they're using it in a different way. It's what you make of it yourself.

Caoimhín

Dudess wrote: »

First I've heard of MySpace being a dating site. Never heard of the other sites you mention OP.

Oh yeah, if you join a social networking site, you HAVE to do all of the above...
People join social networking sites and do none of those things - they just use it to keep in contact with friends they don't see often, and to see/share photographs. There are lots of privacy settings - to the point of it not being possible to search for you (so concern for privacy is moot) and status updates are optional. Then there are people who don't use any privacy settings, have five million friends, and post stuff like "Having a cup of tea - mmmm" but they're using it in a different way. It's what you make of it yourself.

Yeah yeah, spin it any way you like Dudess, ultimately it is a cry for attention. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Our pseudo-American consumer society has created a generation that seeks constant reassurance either through purchase of goods or reinforcement of their identity through social networking.

Red Hand

Caoimhín wrote: »

Yeah yeah, spin it any way you like Dudess, ultimately it is a cry for attention. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Our pseudo-American consumer society has created a generation that seeks constant reassurance either through purchase of goods or reinforcement of their identity through social networking.

Why do you read and post on boards?:pac:

Caoimhín

Jeremiah 16:1 wrote: »

Why do you read and post on boards?:pac:

A cry for attention...

Red Hand

Caoimhín wrote: »

A cry for attention...

/reassures consumer Camohín

foxinsox

KeithM89 wrote: »

Yeah, caus i only add people on Facebook i want to fuck... :rolleyes:

oh...

Asphyxia

- Keep in touch with people.
- Play games.
- Make new friends.
- Advertise their band, business or something.

Some of reasons why people 'in relationships' use social networking sites.

I like Facebook it's very handy to use to keep in contact and express how I feel at times.

KeithM89_old

foxinsox wrote: »

oh...

Count yourself lucky...

tallaghtmick

alwaysadub wrote: »

I don't really care what type of websites my bf visits. I trust him.

ask to see his emails on the site(s)

Caoimhín

Pocketfizz wrote: »

- and express how I feel at times.

Well there you go now, why do you need a PC to express how you feel?

alwaysadub

tallaghtmick wrote: »

ask to see his emails on the site(s)

Like i said, i trust him so i don't need to ask to see anything. He'd let me go through his whole laptop if i did ask though.

tallaghtmick

alwaysadub wrote: »

Like i said, i trust him so i don't need to ask to see anything. He'd let me go through his whole laptop if i did ask though.

bet you 5 euro yes a whole fiver you would find something.

Kimono-Girl

tallaghtmick wrote: »

bet you 5 euro yes a whole fiver you would find something.

you know not everyone has something to hide? honesty does exist in some relationships.

so does trust!

AckwelFoley

This is kinda like asking if peoplein relationships masturbate.

Yes, of course we do.

If you say you dont ur a fcuking liar.


Nothing like a bit of self indulgence... a bit of me time

sligopark

Why do people who are 'in relationships' use social networking sites?

cos they want to get rode by someone else?

Simple - move on - nothing here to gawk at...

tallaghtmick

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

you know not everyone has something to hide? honesty does exist in some relationships.

so does trust!

i didnt ask you

alwaysadub

tallaghtmick wrote: »

bet you 5 euro yes a whole fiver you would find something.

I'm sure i'd find something yeah-be a bit weird if there was absolutley no history in his laptop!. Something incriminating though-nope.

starlit

It generally baffles me when people in serious relationships do it, maybe ok if couples aren't serious and only seeing each other casually but if the relationship is suppose to be somewhere what serious and exclusive I'd doubt myself and doubt my partner if using such websites. Social networking websites like bebo and facebook are ok, once we monitor what we say and do I don't mind that but not to be all kissy kissy with people of the opposite sex that would just irritate me. When it comes to online dating websites and the likes of social networking sites like tagged then I would get a bit worried it would mean the person is looking for someone else/relationship gradually fizzling out. Perhaps the person is bored with the relationship, would like to be single rather than in a relationship, looking for someone new perhaps.

That's my feeling on it and believe me I had started going on online dating websites to see what was out there and could I do better while still in a relationship but for that reason I was bored thats why I were on it that time. I continued to be on dating websites even after the relationship ended, realised then the relationship took its course and so be it. He often had x's at the end of his social networking messages to girls he didn't know and I thought that was very selfish of him, being overly friendly, ok to message them was ok but putting more than three x's was extreme for me when he did that. Even when out around that time maybe the last time we went out together as a couple, I was jealous of all the girls who were single and could hook up with any lad they wanted, I felt out of place, I kept saying in my head I'm in a relationship I shouldn't feel like I rather be single and I should be happy, but at that time, the relationship was coming to an end and well it ended not that long after surprisingly enough. After that was a whole different story.

Asphyxia

Caoimhín wrote: »

Well there you go now, why do you need a PC to express how you feel?

I don't need a PC to express how I feel? It was an example of why some people use social networks besides dating.

tallaghtmick

alwaysadub wrote: »

I'm sure i'd find something yeah-be a bit weird if there was absolutley no history in his laptop!. Something incriminating though-nope.

ah sorry i was only messing with ye,joking sucks on forums

alwaysadub

tallaghtmick wrote: »

ah sorry i was only messing with ye,joking sucks on forums

No bother-i wasn't taking offence or anything don't worry!