Anyone ever get a stalker convicted? How?

MidgetWrestler

Started a thread in another forum during the week, about being stalked and harassed by my ex girlfriend. It's been ongoing for two years, and has been vicious and spiteful, and generally speaking, one way.
She's sent 100s of emails, phone calls, some unwanted (inappropriate) gifts, she's tried to get me fired from my job, then tried to get a job where I work, she messages my friends and family, and has been trying to turn everyone I know against me.

Final straw was earlier this week, on Valentines day, when she set up a profile on an online dating site, with my pictures and personal information, and her words.. .she absolutely slated me, made me out to be the scum of the earth, last person in the world you'd ever want to meet.. never mind date, and in addition to making up this fake profile, she sent messages to 10s, if not 100s of girls in my area.
Up until now, I've been doing my best to ignore her, and I haven't spoken to her in over 15 months, but even though I've had zero contact with her, she still managed to flip out and go psycho, and funnel all that rage and anger at me on valentines day.

So i've decided that enough is enough, it's been 2 years since we broke up (after the first time she flipped out), and I'm not taking her crap anymore.. I reported her to the Gardai in 2009, and again now. May be charges filed against her for defamation & harassment. Not sure yet if I have enough to make a case.

So.. Has anyone there ever had any success with getting a stalker prosecuted in the criminal system? I've been told that family law doesn't seem to apply, because we never lived together as a co-habiting couple.

Evidence wise, I have 234 emails from her saved and printed out - some of them are horrific, I've got screenshots of 100s of missed call from my iPhone, and 100s of texts, and pictures she sent me.. I'd imagine that i have enough stuff here to build a case.. but really, I've never done it before, so wouldn't know for sure.

Bottle_of_Smoke

ask a solicitor. will have to go to one anyway regardless of what anyone here says

Novella

Have the guards told her not to contact you again or what? I mean, if they have and she still persists, that's just insane. Agree with speaking to a solicitor though.

MidgetWrestler

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

ask a solicitor. will have to go to one anyway regardless of what anyone here says

Been there done that.. for a restraining order, or a civil case - like if i wanted to sue her I'd need one for a civil case, and restraining orders are part of family law, like abusive partners etc, and you need to have been living with the person at the same addressfor a set period before it applies.. We never did, so I can't go that route.

the advice I got led me to believe that 'criminal' proceedings were the only route open to me, and as far as i know, that means giving what I have to the Gardai, and it'll be up to them to make a case for the DPP to prosecute..

I just don't know what I need, if I have enough info, or what kind of turmoil / stress it could put on my friends and family, and they've been through enough i think

MidgetWrestler

Novella wrote: »

Have the guards told her not to contact you again or what? I mean, if they have and she still persists, that's just insane. Agree with speaking to a solicitor though.

Yes she was contacted by the Gardai in 2009, she told them to get lost, that they couldn't do anything because she was living abroad. I'm not sure if she's still abroad now, or if she's back in Ireland

LegacyUser

Op, My brother went through something similar years ago. The details at this point are a little hazy to me but from what I recall, once a certain time had lapsed the saved text messages or emails or whatever evidence was no longer usable.

I could be way off here, maybe someone else can confirm. Can emails from over 6 months ago be followed up now? Or is there a certain time in which you have to make the case?

If she's abroad it all gets more complex too

Ickle Magoo

OP, you already posted about this and got advice here.

The advice on this forum is the same - the only way you are going to know if you have a case against her is if you get legal advice, we can't tell you any more than that. I certainly would advise against posting more details here as your messages will make you easily identifiable and just give your stalker another avenue in which to pursue you.

All the best.