Snoring

AnonMous

Hey folks,

I'll just cut to the chase here. It is a very small problem compared to some on here!! I've recently started going out with a really nice girl. She is really genuine and I feel very strongly about her.

However, I have one problem. She snores really heavily. I realise that people snore, but like everyone, I want to get a sleep for myself. Last night, I decided to get up and go and sleep in a different room so I could actually sleep. She wasn't happy about the fact that I wanted to sleep separate to her.

So basically, she wanted me to try and sleep beside her even though she was snoring really heavily. I'm after getting up now and she is making me feel really bad for wanting to sleep in a different room.

My question to you guys is, is it unreasonable of me to want to sleep in a separate room when she is snoring really heavily?

Taltos

No. Not at all. As someone who snores I know where you are coming from.

There are a few things to try.
1. See a doctor, there could be an underlying condition. May mean an op or a mouthguard.
2. Exercise more. Fat can trigger snoring.
3. Wear earplugs. A wife of w mate does this.
4. Try some of the remedies. I use a product called Silence, every night though or it is not as effective.
5. Reduce alcohol consumption.

I tried 1 - told to lose weight.
Now I have found 2 & 4 together really work.
I know where she is coming from, but she has to ask herself. A relationship w someone who is rested after a nights sleep, or a grouch that wants to tell her to shut up....

Auldloon

Disposable foam earplugs solves the problem for me. Learn how to fit them properly as most people don't.

tenchi-fan

Snoring is horrible

It can be excess flab weighing down on the airways. In which case, your new love interest could do with exercising a bit more.

Alcohol can also cause your throat/airways to relax too much causing snoring.

Just a side note... op, you've only started going out with this girl. There is no rule that says you must sleep in the same bed, especially when she's getting a sound sleep and keeping you awake. Now's a good time to establish some boundaries.

johnr1

Does she always snore, or is it just when tired or after alcohol ?
I dont drink at all, am not overweight etc, but I snore badly when overtired. I think the snorer should be the one to leave the bed btw.
Agree with the cheap disposable eartplugs, most people don't fit them correctly, but I know from my construction background that if fitted correctly, they can be as good as earmuffs!

Neyite

I think its cheeky of her to make you feel bad about having to move beds halfway through the night, considering that it is her fault you had to.

Ask her what her solution is for you getting a good nights sleep then. What is she willing to do to ensure this so that you can share a bed together.

She is out of order giving you a hard time about it. If it was me keeping someone awake with snoring I would be mortified and apologetic when I was told and the first thing I would do is find any remedy that might work so I dont disturb others.

Toots

If my sinuses are bothering me, I snore (but only if I'm lying on my back), I found those breathing strips really helpful. You get them in the chemist and they go across the bridge of your nose. I found they work a treat.

I think she's being a bit mean making you feel bad for sleeping somewhere else, in fairness would she have preferred that you lay beside her all night unable to sleep and then spent the next day staggering around like a zombie because you were so tired?

mud

AnonMous wrote: »

Hey folks,

I'll just cut to the chase here. It is a very small problem compared to some on here!! I've recently started going out with a really nice girl. She is really genuine and I feel very strongly about her.

However, I have one problem. She snores really heavily. I realise that people snore, but like everyone, I want to get a sleep for myself. Last night, I decided to get up and go and sleep in a different room so I could actually sleep. She wasn't happy about the fact that I wanted to sleep separate to her.

So basically, she wanted me to try and sleep beside her even though she was snoring really heavily. I'm after getting up now and she is making me feel really bad for wanting to sleep in a different room.

My question to you guys is, is it unreasonable of me to want to sleep in a separate room when she is snoring really heavily?

OP I am that snorey girl (not actually, just that I snore too ). I have to say, I absolutely hate the fact that I'm a snorer but I also HATE the fact that it leads to so much disquiet in relationships. I'm up front about it, highly recommend ear-plugs and also I do my best to use remedies when I'm sleeping in company.

I would encourage you to leave the room if you are not getting any sleep, but it's all in the manner of how you leave the room. Going off in a sulky huff = bad, reasonably explaining that you need to go get some rest = good.

She's wrong to get ****ty with you though, she's getting her rest even if you're not.

Angeles

My partner is the very same
I've had countless nights where I've had to have couch sleep, she was always upset about it too, but i think she was more upset by the fact i was forced to move in the first place.

I found an interesting way around it, focus on the way she sleeps, back, front, side.. and see the position of her head at the time,
If you can get her to sleep with her head facing more straight, upwards from her back, while on her side *spooning will help here* it will allow her to breath alot easier when sleeping and reduce the snoring for periods of time which should help you get to sleep.

Worked for me for a long time, eventually i just got use to it, in a way now her snoring seems to have the same effect of a van engine, after listening to it for years it actually starts inducing sleep...

AnonMous

Hey folks, op here,

Thanks a million for the responses, much appreciated. She doesn't always snore, it is usually after alcohol or if she is over tired.

I always bring it up in a nice way and never storm off in a huff when attempting to leave the room. I started the thread on Saturday after a sleepless night on Friday. I brought up the subject on Saturday during the day and she took it well when I explained the logic behind me wanting to get some sleep so we could have a nice day the following day.

It took a bit of convincing but it is all sorted now. Thanks again for the responses :-)