advice on a girl

LegacyUser

there's a girl in my class in college in Galway(i know don't **** on your own doorstep etc), i really like her but she confuses the hell outta me whether she fancies me or not.. i kinda think she does but maybe i am wrong.. we're both early 20's

she constantly slags me whenever i'm around her with others.. but i'm cheeky to her a lot.. she's been out a few times drinking and she'd leave x's at the end of just normal text messages to me.. not suggestive messages or anything.. she'd never leave x's normally and the next day she never mentions it or anything.. she was on and off with a guy durin most of her teen years when she lived in england and broke up with him half a year ago.. so i think that maybe she's not sure what to do cause she would not have been with many people and would never have gone through the whole texting and meetin up with guys etc.. she is a clever chick has a really smart mouth and likes to slag but i think she kinda hides behind that whole slagging thing instead of talking
i was talking about an ex girlfriend from years ago to a guy in my class and he was looking at my ex's facebook on my phone.. she overheard and saw the girls picture on it and she skitted me about how i managed to pull her etc and went a bit overboard slaggin me more than usual.. so i was thinkin it could be her way of being jealous?? i text her later sayin 'thanks for slagging the hell out of me in front of every1' and we argued over text a bit and i won the argument.. and then later she start textin me again but just being nice.. that was her way of apologising cause she'd be too proud to admit she was in the wrong
see the thing is i don't want to ask her out or suggest too much cause it'd be really awkward in class with her if she said no

i'm completely confused.. maybei'm taking all these signs the wrong way.. but like i'm nothing but nice to her and out of every1 in class she treats me different by slaggin etc but she'd text me normally then after.. i'm obviously over thinking but i just need some advice thanks.. maybe i am takin these signs wrong?

sorry for the length

LegacyUser

It sounds like she may be interested...but there are ways of finding out that don't require overthinking!. You say you are both in your early 20's so you are old enough to move past the schoolyard hairpulling style of romance. Why not suggest a movie or going for coffee and have a proper chat with her? Those are things friends do so will not result in any loss of face.
You can guage her reaction and move things along without any big declaration!

TBH honest it sounds like you are getting stuck in a childish kind of interaction with her. No harm but if you want to take it to another level, step up and ask her out. Don't worry about facing her in class if she says no, that will pass quickly, plenty of fish etc. At least you will know and a few classes of awkwardness vs all the overthinking and wondering what if?, no contest.

James400

OP, what are you actually asking?

No offence but your post confused the hell out of me!

Zombrex

johnmcjon wrote: »

see the thing is i don't want to ask her out or suggest too much cause it'd be really awkward in class with her if she said no

Ask her out in a way that if she says no it isn't too awkward.

Like say to her there is this great movie on would she like to go or something, just the two of you. If she makes an excuse or seems uninterested, you have your answer but you haven't come right out and said you fancy her so while she probably knew you were asking her out it isn't embarrassing.

Or just ask her out directly and deal with it if she says no.

I mean its not the end of the world, don't take it personally, don't get annoyed or embarrassed and it shouldn't be t0o awkward afterwards.

You are never going to figure out if she likes you by simply over analysing everything she does. Even if she does like you by the time you think you have analyized everything she could have moved on, people don't wait around forever for someone. If she does like you she herself is probably thinking "He must not like me, surely he would have asked me out by now"

LegacyUser

Yea maybe i gotta stop being a wuss and bite the bullet..i'd just really hate if she said no..it'd kill me.. tho i'm sure i'd get over it.. i think i'll be out the same night as her during the week.. so might see what happens then?