I'm A Disaster!!!

thesultan

Ok today I was going to ask out this girl I'm crazy about. Now I had it all planned out the night before what I was going to say. When it came around this morning I funked it. The problem is I blush to easy , way to easy. I got a salute off her and I went red.I went back inside then instead of going to chat to her. I depise every thing about this and the effect it has on me. I work in a bar and anytime an attractive lady comes in I blush. It has effected me ten fold. The problem is that I can talk to women when I have a few pints in me and I don't blush. It's driving me crazy. The thing is that this girl that I really like (just recently broke up with her boyfriend) and I think we get on really well. Now weather she likes me that way is open to debate and the question that I would like to know. Even if she doesn't (She's a hotty by the way and has a great personality) I still would have liked to question her on the matter. Another thing is that that my two younger brothers are in settled relationships with two lovely girls. One is living with his girlfriend and the other is actually travelling but by driving him home on the day before his departure I won't be suprised if he popped the question to her on his arrival home.

Now I'm hitting thirty this year , I have my own place and I thought by now I would be married with kids. It's kind of eating up at me and really irratating me that most of my friends are settled down while myself lies ideally by. Now I'm far from a Brad Pitt looker but I won't describe myself as ugly either and try to think of myself of having a good fashion sense.

I have a red cheeks anyhow , kind of bradleyesque (from eastenders) and any bit of heat my cheeks heat up. I have tried to counter this too by taking showers earlier in the day or having little heat in them and shaving the day before I go out. The main thing about all this is that I would like to have a good conversation with a woman without having drink in me and the blushing complex.

I still hope to have a conversation with this girl tomorrow but I hope that I don't wimp out of it or the dreaded blush.

LegacyUser

You're a little all over the place there but you just need to take a chill.

I'm about your age. The kind of 'taking stock' age, the way I see it. I'm also a big blusher. The word blush makes me blush! I know it's not funny. I always give away when I like someone.

There's this girl I know. Heart of gold. She's seriously good looking. Much better looking than I am. I genuinely believe we might be 'soul mates' <bleurrggghhh> even though we're not part of each other's daily lives. She's a serial monogomist. I heard she was single at one stage and I'd psyched myself up to ask her out. She had someone new even before I bumped into her

Don't waste the opportunity I didn't have. You have to suspend reality for a minute. Suck it up, take a deep breath, start talking and let things take their course. If you blush, you blush. If you stutter, you stutter. If you choke, you choke. You will regret it if you don't do it. You owe it to yourself and your own happiness. Please let me know if things pan out. I hope it goes well.

thesultan

I actually got up early and all this knowing that I would bump into her and went down at lunch time thinking I might bumb into her. Anyhow I missed her this morning. She was there early so I hope to try again tomorrow.

Can't remember where I read it but 'Regrets are thinks that you haven't done not things you have'. I would be actually delighted in myself if I had this chance meet and proposalled her even if it didn't come about. I must be up early in the morning to meet her. There is something about her that just makes me feel a better person. I don't want to go near text over this issue , if must be face to face if I have any balls at all

cantdecide

You're already resigned to the fact that you're going to do it so the agony is over. Don't overthink it or dwell on it. It will be different to anything you can anticipate. Occupy your mind until you meet her and just come out with it.

thesultan

The first day I was going to do it I went to bed at half ten and didn't sleep until two thinking about what I was going to do( not do as it turned out). Lets hoping its turned out alright

thesultan

Anyway she stuck off to Australia a few months back. I hardly ever meet her at the this stage but I made a stupid mistake a few months back , I texted her and asked her if she was still going out with her boyfriend. No responde and I never did question her on what I wanted. I actually saw her pass on the day she left in a car and sent her a text and responded .



Following on on this I meet a really nice girl the other night. I was working mind and she was kinda of drunk and I went up to a party. I was dancing with her and all but she fell asleep. I found her on facebook the other day and left a message about how where you from the other night. she got back to me and how where you and all and I told her I was fine and would she come out with me some time? anyway she said that she was just out of a relationship and wanted to spend time on her own. To say that I'm sickened is an understatement