Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Where to start?

  • 16-02-2011 11:29pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all, I'd really appreciate some advice on my situation...

    I'm a 30 year old female in a long term relationship. I love my OH dearly and we get on great and sex is great when we have it. For the past while though my libido has seriously decreased depending on my time of the month...For a few (2-3) days every month I cant get enough, however for the other 20 odd days, I have little if any interest in sex. Is this normal? Or is there anything I can do to even it out a bit? Myself and my OH are in different parts of the country because of work, at the moment and only spend weekends together. Its starting to cause big problems in our relationship and I actually thought we were going to break up a month ago because of it :( I really want to get out of feeling like this but not sure where to start??


Comments

  • #2
    Roselm
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 753 ✭✭✭Roselm


    Monthly frustration wrote: »
    Hi all, I'd really appreciate some advice on my situation...

    I'm a 30 year old female in a long term relationship. I love my OH dearly and we get on great and sex is great when we have it. For the past while though my libido has seriously decreased depending on my time of the month...For a few (2-3) days every month I cant get enough, however for the other 20 odd days, I have little if any interest in sex. Is this normal? Or is there anything I can do to even it out a bit? Myself and my OH are in different parts of the country because of work, at the moment and only spend weekends together. Its starting to cause big problems in our relationship and I actually thought we were going to break up a month ago because of it :( I really want to get out of feeling like this but not sure where to start??

    Hi OP, I'm not sure whether your situation is "normal" or not but I'd say most likely there's a HUGE range of situations that can be considered to be. However you did say that this has been the case "for the past while" so maybe this couldn't be described as normal for you.

    If you're on the pill that can affect your sex drive so could be worth mentioning it to your GP as he might suggest an alternative.

    I'd also think about whether anything of note changed in other areas of your life at the same time your sex drive did, i.e. stress levels, tiredness, run down, other aspects of your relationship between you and your OH, have you changed the way you approach sex because of this (I mean if it has become the case that you dread your OH making a move there will tend to be stress surrounding the whole "event" meaning you are less likely to be able to get into the mood in the first place)

    You asked if there's anything you can do. Other than the above maybe try jazzing things up, trying something new (in the sex department!) to keep it interesting.

    Hope something there helps.
    Have you tried anything so far? It's so annoying when your body doesn't do what you want it to!!!


Advertisement