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convincing myself

  • 16-02-2011 3:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys, I am at the stage in my life where I actually don't think I will ever have a family of my own and well the thing that bothers me the most is that I have started to convince myself that I don't want a wife,kids and all that business

    Anytime anyone asks me I say ''sure why would I want to have kids'' It's really somthing I want but I just don't see it happening and I am afraid that I am becoming bitter about the subject...


    Previously I was different to other men I suppose?? I even had my kids names picked out lol Now when I see my firends with their kids it just depresses me.

    Is what I am doing wrong? and what exactly is wrong with BEING A BATCHELOR THESE DAYS? I have told a few people that I am just not intrested in having a family and they look at me as if I have killed someone..............


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  • #2
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    There is probably loads of time for you to meet someone and have kids etc if that is what you want. Don't bother pretending it's not what you want if it is. I don't get why you would do that.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    mood wrote: »
    There is probably loads of time for you to meet someone and have kids etc if that is what you want. Don't bother pretending it's not what you want if it is. I don't get why you would do that.

    The reason I have pretended is because I find generally when I say 'ah i'd love kids' People tend to have a symphatetic reaction and say ''shame you havnt got that isnt it'' I'd rather people thing i'm a bit bitter than feeling sorry for me...


  • #4
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Why not say 'I just haven't meet the right woman yet' or 'what's the hurry!'. You could be preventing yourself form meeting some by doing this. If any of these friends have a female friend who might like you they could be put off if they are told you don't want kids etc if they do.

    You shouldn't let it get to you.
    People can't say stuff like that to you that often.


  • #5
    moco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 972 ✭✭✭moco


    Hi, do you mind me asking how old you are?

    I used to do the same thing you're doing. I always wanted to get married, bave kids etc, but when I got to a stage in my life where I'd given up hope of meeting someone good (29), I started pretending I didn't want to meet anyone.

    I told my friends and mum that I was happy being single forever and I'd get a sperm donor to have kids! I just didn't want people feeling sorry for me, as that would just make feel more sorry for myself.

    Then I met my boyfriend and he's great, we've been together for 2 years.

    Tell other people whatever you feel happier with, but just be careful to not believe too much what you're saying. Just stay positive!


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