Should she be arrested?

ebixa82

This girl went "missing" last week..she reckons she knew nothing of the national manhunt that was undertaken.

She is a law graduate from TCD so probably is not retarded...

So her phone would have been flooded with missed calls and text messages which she ignored. News on TV, Radio and Newspapers had the story of her search on a daily basis...

I'm sure her facebook page was flooded with messages of good wishes and concern (ok, I'm presuming she has a page!)

But somehow, she claims she didn't bother to either (a) turn her phone on (b) see any form of media and (c) not use the internet in a week (up until yesterday)

I know she is from Leitrim, in which case, none of the above may be at your disposal, but she went from Dublin to Clare.

I really feel for what her family must have gone through but fuc.k that, she should be done for wasting Garda time and sent a pretty hefty bill for the time and resources she wasted which could have been used much more importantly..

End of rant!

Edit: I'm delighted the girl is alive and well. But people need to be responsible for their actions. She is only 22 and so is obviously not old enough to be able to dissapear for a week without people worrying. If she was 32 or 42 then her family may not have been concerned.

CiaranC

stfu you gob****e

4zn76tysfajdxp

Are you really complaining about a missing person turning up alive and well?

sproggg

... I don't know much about this case ... but it sounds to me like she might have crashed and burned? remember Stephen Fry a few years ago? maybe you are right - she could well be a silly little B ... but I would say there's also a pretty good chance she may well have had the darkest week of her life ...

ebixa82

Alena Acidic Poem wrote: »

Are you really complaining about a missing person turning up alive and well?

As I said I'm delighted for her family, but it's not like she fell down a well or got lost hiking....she decided not to bother contacting her family, somehow avoided using any form of communication...didn't read any source of news and then shows up safe and sound.
She didn't technically go missing, she simply couldn't be arsed contacting anyone and must have known full well how that would impact on a family who loved her!

mrsdewinter

It's not as if the army was out all hours searching for her. She's safe and sound... Can we all just let her get on with her life? Oh, and OP, it's good to know that if a soul opts to take time out, you're there to offer your support when they resurface. Stay classy...

Mister men

Jesus christ she turned up alive ffs. God knows what was going on in her head would you prefer she was found at the bottom of a river? I wonder about the human race sometimes.

cml387

Amazing as it may sound, it is quite possible to go through a week without watching TV,surfing the internet or using a mobile phone.
I realise this may be a tough concept for some to grasp.

TG she's alive and well and I'm sure her family are delighted.

Canis Lupus

ebixa82 wrote: »

As I said I'm delighted for her family, but it's not like she fell down a well or got lost hiking....she decided not to bother contacting her family, somehow avoided using any form of communication...didn't read any source of news and then shows up safe and sound.
She didn't technically go missing, she simply couldn't be arsed contacting anyone and must have known full well how that would impact on a family who loved her!

If we're to take her word for what she says then I don't really think pottering off for a week for some "me" time is that big of a deal. If you're not into the news I could imagine it being entirely possible to miss the excitement. It entirely depends on her social situation, she might have been a very solitary person to begin with.

ebixa82

mrsdewinter wrote: »

Oh, and OP, it's good to know that if a soul opts to take time out, you're there to offer your support when they resurface. Stay classy...

People are more than entitled to take time out but why not inform their loved ones first of all of their intentions??

Mister men wrote: »

Jesus christ she turned up alive ffs. God knows what was going on in her head would you prefer she was found at the bottom of a river? I wonder about the human race sometimes.

No.

Canis Lupus

ebixa82 wrote: »

People are more than entitled to take time out but why not inform their loved ones first of all of their intentions??

Cos she didn't. Now build a bridge and make a retreat from this thread, I don't see it working out well for you :P

RoisinDove

Why was she ever treated as 'missing'? Wasn't it even reported that she sent her mother a text asking to be left alone? Was that not true? She was also seen alive and well on CCTV last Saturday.

It does seem horribly selfish to disappear and turn off your phone when people will obviously be expecting you somewhere, but perhaps she had something really serious going on.

ebixa82

Canis Lupus wrote: »

Cos she didn't. Now build a bridge and make a retreat from this thread, I don't see it working out well for you :P

True that Canis Lupus, only one way this thread is going by the looks of it!

People need to be responsible for her actions is all that I am saying. If people think she should not have been responsible for the manhunt that was undertaken then perhaps her family who contacted the Gardai should be?

Someone needs to be held accountable, that is a fact!

I'm sure her family are overjoyed today and would never show any sense of anger against her, but I guarantee there are some pretty pissed of Gardai and detectives out there who feel their time has been wasted for the past 7 days..

inforfun

cml387 wrote: »

Amazing as it may sound, it is quite possible to go through a week without watching TV,surfing the internet or using a mobile phone.
I realise this may be a tough concept for some to grasp.

That.
And maybe people shouldnt panic immediatly when a 22 year old grown up goes of the radar for a few days.

ColeTrain

RoisinDove wrote: »

Why was she ever treated as 'missing'? Wasn't it even reported that she sent her mother a text asking to be left alone? Was that not true? She was also seen alive and well on CCTV last Saturday.

It does seem horribly selfish to disappear and turn off your phone when people will obviously be expecting you somewhere, but perhaps she had something really serious going on.

Still, she should have known that turning off her phone and 'going dark' would cause the people close to her serious worry. Pretty selfish if you ask me.

Hedman

ebixa82 wrote: »

Someone needs to be held accountable, that is an opinion!

fyp

RoisinDove

ColeTrain wrote: »

Still, she should have known that turning off her phone and 'going dark' would cause the people close to her serious worry. Pretty selfish if you ask me.

Oh, it's extremely selfish. And foolish. But if she was having some sort of breakdown, more understandable. It also seems like her family went OTT (especially if it's true that she texted and told them to leave her alone) but perhaps there's more to the story and they thought they had reason to worry?

ebixa82

Hedman wrote: »

fyp

So you think it's ok for people to waste Gardai resources and not be held accountable?
As if Garda resources aren't stretced enough without them having to deal with shi.t like this!

Azureus

Sometimes when people are in that 'dark place' if that is where she was, the last thing they think of is other people. Its not neccesarily selfish, its human nature and a coping mechanism. I, like most people, are just glad she is alive and well regardless of her reasons for going off the radar and should just be glad that this was one case with a happy outcome.

Arrested? Seriously??...

RoisinDove

Azureus wrote: »

Sometimes when people are in that 'dark place' if that is where she was, the last thing they think of is other people. Its not neccesarily selfish, its human nature and a coping mechanism. I, like most people, are just glad she is alive and well regardless of her reasons for going off the radar and should just be glad that this was one case with a happy outcome.

Arrested? Seriously??...

It became apparent early on that she wasn't really 'missing'. She used her ATM card, she was seen on CCTV walking around. I never expected any other outcome. It was fairly clear that she just didn't want to be found.

ColeTrain

RoisinDove wrote: »

Oh, it's extremely selfish. And foolish. But if she was having some sort of breakdown, more understandable. It also seems like her family went OTT (especially if it's true that she texted and told them to leave her alone) but perhaps there's more to the story and they thought they had reason to worry?

Can't say I know much about it but if her family did get a text message then that's different.
If she was going through a hard time and they didn't hear from her then you can't blame them for being worried.

Hedman

ebixa82 wrote: »

So you think it's ok for people to waste Gardai resources and not be held accountable?
As if Garda resources aren't stretced enough without them having to deal with shi.t like this!

Did she purposefully waste Garda resources? From what i can see she got in touch with the Garda as soon as she checked her emails and realised the fuss that had happened. Like others have said it's not impossible to actually go a week without watching the tv or looking at the internet.

Who would you hold responsible? Her parents for being worried? Her for being selfish? Last time i looked being a selfish, irresponsible 22 year old isn't a crime.

Also stop getting angry on behalf of the Garda. You never know, they may actually be relieved that for once a missing persons case has a happy ending.

MagicMarker

If it could be somehow proven that she knew there was police involvement in the search for her, then yes she should be prosecuted.

Good luck proving that though.

ebixa82

Hedman wrote: »

Who would you hold responsible? Her parents for being worried? Her for being selfish? Last time i looked being a selfish, irresponsible 22 year old isn't a crime.

Whoever contacted the Gardai and said they wanted to use their manpower and resources. Simple as that.

She would have been officially reported as "missing", not as "some young one who is goin through a bit of a rough patch and might not want to be bothered".

Hedman

ebixa82 wrote: »

Whoever contacted the Gardai and said they wanted to use their manpower and resources. Simple as that.

She would have been officially reported as "missing", not as "some young one who is goin through a bit of a rough patch and might not want to be bothered".

Ok i'll note for future reference that if i want to report someone missing they better bloody well turn up dead or it'll be a waste of resources, gotcha.

ebixa82

Hedman wrote: »

Ok i'll note for future reference that if i want to report someone missing they better bloody well turn up dead or it'll be a waste of resources, gotcha.

That's a fair point but what would happen if every young girl who didn't want to be contacted by her mammy went "missing" for a week and decided to make herself uncontactable. The Gardai would soon tire of dealing with such cases. Would it not be a case of the boy/girl who cried wolf?

"Ah sure she's probably not missing at all, she probably just wants to be left alone for a while...we'll give it a week and then focus on the search then!"

papajimsmooth

We should crucify her as an example to the rest of us.

grrrrrrrrrr

Ya I think it was Thursday she sent a message saying to leave her alone. Thats how they tri-angulated her to Clare. But for all the gardai knew that could have been her abducter off her phone

Scarinae

Arresting her for wasting Garda time might discourage others from reporting someone missing until it is too late. We should just be happy that she has turned up safe and sound.

RoisinDove

ebixa82 wrote: »

That's a fair point but what would happen if every young girl who didn't want to be contacted by her mammy went "missing" for a week and decided to make herself uncontactable. The Gardai would soon tire of dealing with such cases. Would it not be a case of the boy/girl who cried wolf?

"Ah sure she's probably not missing at all, she probably just wants to be left alone for a while...we'll give it a week and then focus on the search then!"

That is a good point. She had to have some idea people were worrying, surely? All she had to do if she wanted to be left alone was ring her mam and leave a voicemail saying that. It seemed crazy that so much time and money was being spent on a grown adult who had obviously decided to take some time out.

biko

FFS