Would you be bothered?

LegacyUser

Would you be upset if your other half kissed someone of the opposite sex? Just cause it seemed like the thing to do in the heat of the fun on a drunken night out? My girlfriend recently kissed one of my (gay) male friends and it honestly really bothered me. Then it got me all upset and wondering would she kiss another girl if it was a similar circuimstance? Now I don't know if I am over reacting about it or not.

We were at a party the other night and one of the other girls there was extremely drunk and looked like she was making a stab at kissing my girlfriend but I could see her turn her face away. I can't stop obsessing about this and I don't know what to do. I know she loves me very much, but I worry her view of kissing as just some fun and mine that it's something I really don't feel comfortable with is going to cause some trouble.

Anyone any input or feelings on it?

baby and crumble

Well I think the key thing is communication. Personally, I'd freak out if my girlfriend kissed anyone, but that's something we talked about when we got together so we knew what's what. I think you need to have the same conversation with your girlfriend. Some people see flirting as cheating (I don't), for some (like me) it starts at kissing and for others it's only when it becomes overtly sexual. But either way, you need to talk to your girlfriend about it and get on the same page, otherwise you'll go mad. If you can't agree on stuff like this it doesn't bode well for the long term. This is pretty fundamental stuff.

best of luck!

Dr. Baltar

In short, no.

But if it were made clear at the start of the relationship that there was to be no kissing ect. in the relationship then yes.

Endymion

The reason you can't stop thinking about it is because you can't figure out what her thought process was. Was there attraction, was there emotional attachment to the kiss, was she aware of your feelings on it and disregarded them, was she oblivious of your feelings and is this a sign of her being so in the future.

The kiss isn't the problem, the problem is a lack of communications and security in your relationship. In a secure communicative relationship you would know the answers to these question without torturing yourself trying to read another's mind. You'd know to angry with her or to dismiss it. At the start of my current relationship my boyfriend completely miss judged my reaction to him kissing a rather fetching young woman on a drunken night out. Through communication, that was resolved.

annabellea

I would definately be annoyed if my girlfriend did that, I would have to talk to her about it but would be very upset and annoyed

ElectricGirl

There needs to be trust and you need to figure out if you trust her! If you dont like her kissing boys then she shouldnt be kissing other boys, doesnt matter if anyone else thinks its ok or not, if it makes you uncomfortable then she shouldnt be doing it.