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  • 15-02-2011 7:15pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Is it possible to have a happy life with your paprtne even if all of his friends hate your guts.

    Going out with my bf years, love
    him completely, on excellent terms with his family but his friends don't like me. The men think I stole him from their group (love caused him to spend more time with me and less with them) and meanwhile his ex put all of the females in the group off me by spreading lies in the early years. My bf tried to fix it but it was a lost cause.

    I didnt care at the time as we didn't live there, we were away with college and then travelling for years and I knew I was bigger than these people and they weren't worth correcting when they believed utter lies.

    But now we have moved back home where he's from and he is naturally sending more time with his friends again. I let him go alone mostly as I dont have a very good night if I go along, the guys are ok but the women are downright nasty. I'm happy to stay away and do my own thing but can this work long term?
    Will a separate social life lead to problems eventually?

    He feels bad about it and tries to stay home with me often but I hate the thought of him missing out on male company, he's known his friends since childhood and while they don't like me, they do like him. Why should he suffer?

    We ate both late 20s.

    Would like to hear from someone who has been through this problem of not being liked by their partners friends and how they dealt with it.


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  • #2
    astra2000
    Closed Accounts Posts: 734 ✭✭✭astra2000


    There has been so many of these type of treads here recently its scary, how are grown women so easily influenced by others,? Are you sure its down to the ex that they dont like you, could it simply be a personality clash?
    Now in answer to your question I dont think separate social lives can be a good thing especially due to the reasons you describe. Dont get me wrong I see nothing wrong with your bf meeting his mates without you sometimes, but it isnt right that he should meet them and their gfs regularly without you. It should never be a case that ye are forced to socialise separatly. Start going out with your bf to places you will both enjoy, he could still meet up with his friends and you with yours occassionally or what ever suits.
    Tbh I cant understand why your bf would choose to regularly spend time in the company of people who are nasty to you, how come he doesnt just meet his friends on lads nights. why does he choose to go when these girls are present, that is sending out the wrong message to you and them. Do neither of ye not have other friends who treat you both with respect and could socialise with. Frankly if my friends husbands treated my husband with distain I would never socialise with my friends while their husbands were present.


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