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Gambling binge

  • 15-02-2011 2:38pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi,
    Was out the other night, came home drunk enough in the early hours, ended up gambling away alot of my savings, over a grand, dunno what came into me, i never put on bets, have an account for the odd punt, on cheltenham and big football matches.
    I cannot believe what I've done, remember putting the bets on, and woke up later the day feeling absolutely depressed.
    Cancelled my account immediately but I feel so stupid, feel really lost, as it not something I've ever been into before. Dunno what came over me, was preparing to book flights for my summer holidays this week and dont know how to explain it to my family and friends. Any advice? should i just forget it and leave it down to a "life experience" or should i talk to someone about it?


Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 164 ✭✭eddison


    Hi OP,

    Firstly you gambled 1000. Some people gamble with 100,000's say in shares or speculation of different kinds. Trying to put this into context, its not serious.
    Should you put this down to life experience? Well there is not much you can do. The question is if you will learn from the experience, or repeat it. This seems flippant but believe it or not, it happens all the time.
    People gamble, feel guilty, beat themselves up about it, time passes, then they gamble again. Same with many addictions. Question is, will you start this cycle of self loathing due to your actions, and then gamble again at some later point? But make a clear fully conscious decision which way to intend to go. You may decide to gamble some more to get it out of your system. this is fine as long as you place a limit on how long you intend to do this for, or the amount or spending limit you place upon yourself. However you choose is up to no one but yourself.
    Don't give the thought 'gambling' any more power. There is amazing and hidden wisdom in the simple phrase:
    Don't give it a second thought.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 54 ✭✭bertaluchi


    Hi there,
    First off, giving my thoughts to someone I don't know is a bit mad cause everybody reacts to stuff like this differently. Some people react well to a kind word, others need a kick in the arse.

    Eddisons comments were fine but I would give myself a massive kick up the arse. I know it seems like I'm making a big deal out of it, but that's because I think it IS a big deal. E1000 down the swanie, particularly when you had plans for that money, sorry chief, that's really bad.
    Don't know what age you are, you sound young. What if you do it again in the future? If you are on a better wage will you blow more?

    On the talking to someone, don't know. If it was a one off then maybe going to a therapist or GA meeting would be overkill, but I defo would tell someone. You've messed up here (you've said that yourself) and keeping it a secret would be like letting yourself off. If it was me, I'd want someone I respected to give me an ear full.

    Feel for you chief. Still, better you loose a grand now and learn your lesson.

    Make it stick! Learn your lesson.

    Fair play and good luck


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    I'm going to say it's possible you have a bigger problem with drink than gambling.

    I've had enough "errors of judgement" while drinking to realise I needed to cut back a bit.

    As for the gambling, if it's a once off I think you should put it down to experience. And make sure you either ask your bookies to put a daily limit on your account if they let you, or just don't link your account to your credit card.

    I think you should scale back your holiday plans and avoid drinking and gambling until then.


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