exclusivity

Decatur84

I've been seeing this guy for around 6 months. We see each other a few times a week (go to cinema/pub/gigs/stay in watchin movies ets.,). We get along great and he seems really interested. Only thing is we have never had "the conversation" ie he has never asked us to be in a relationship or to be exclusive. I am wondering what he is "doing" with other women and if he still has things going on with people from the past or something preventing him from wanting an exclusive relationship. I thought you were supposed to wait until the guy brought up the conversation however 6 months on and I think I would like to figure out if I should be dating other people.

Ickle Magoo

What rule book says you must wait until a guy says something at X point?

If YOU want to know what's going on in YOUR relationship than have a discussion about it. Make your own rule book - at no stage should you be anxious or concerned about something in your relationship and unable to discuss it due to some invisible line of acceptability.

All the best. :cool:

AnonoBoy

Decatur84 wrote: »

I thought you were supposed to wait until the guy brought up the conversation however 6 months on and I think I would like to figure out if I should be dating other people.

Oh good lord!

You're supposed to wait for a guy to take the lead? Says who?

You would like to figure out if you should be dating other people? Then figure it out.

You don't need his say so to think for yourself about this.

After 6 months if you're not sure whether you want to be exclusively with him or not then most likely it's not.

If you want to be with him and him alone then have the conversation. Just have it.

If you're waiting around to be told by him what your relationship should be, then you're not ready to be in a relationship.

Beruthiel

Decatur84 wrote: »

I thought you were supposed to wait until the guy brought up the conversation

Where's that rule written?

however 6 months on and I think I would like to figure out if I should be dating other people.

Then ask him.

Penny Dreadful

Bring the conversation up yourself. When I had been going out with my boyfriend for about 6 weeks or so, I had plans to meet up with some college friends that I hadn't seen for a while and wanted to tell them about him but wanted to know was there a) just some guy I was seeing or b) was he my boyfriend. I said to him that I was meeting the girls and what would I tell them about us, was it just the two of us totally exclusive. He was said yes of course then we...........well you don't need to know that bit:o
There was nothing weird about brining it up myself and getting clarification on things and you should feel free to do the same.

IrishEyes19

Well firstly, OP, I dont think you needed a barrage of people giving out why you haven't brought it up yourself. People come on here for advice in siutations they find difficult to handle and in some cases receive a bombardment of advice on morals. Im assuming you feel nervous in case he turns around and tells you he didnt think it was serious and doesnt want a serious relationship. That said, if you would like to be exclusive, maybe casually mention it and see his reaction. best of luck. And if you're not happy with it, move on maybe. After six months Id expect the conversation to have come up at least once.

LegacyUser

Do you really need to have the coversation? In Ireland is it not just presumed! I'm going out with a guy 4 months and we've never had "the conversation" and I wouldn't have any doubt that we are exclusive!

woodsie72

ask him,if you think you should,its up to you

Giselle

If you don't know where you stand after six months, ask him. No point in being strung along.

Tbh I'm surprised you don't know, even without having the 'conversation'.