Should I move out

trooperdx3117

Hi all im in college and living in on-campus accomadation, I dont have many friends in my course because im in only a small one mixed in with a lot of other courses and i'll be honest feel really nervous around people. Recently ut feels like my housemates have started excluding me from things like nights out and generally just ignoring me, last semester we seemed to get on okay but now things feel really different and unpleasant. Im starting miserable about myself because of it and im wondering if its my fault and should I ask to move to a different house, but im afraid that now its too late in the year to do that and if I do i'll move into a house where everyone is already friends and will dislike me as well just like my current housemates do. What do you guys think? Move out and hope for the best or grin and bear it for the rest of the year?

JuliusCaesar

Maybe rather than moving out, you need to get over the nervousness. It might be that the nervousness is causing you to come across in a way that you don't realise - as stand-offish, as superior, as silent, as judgemental. I don't know, only you can tell - or maybe not.... I used to be very shy and I was shocked when people, after getting to know me, told me that they had previously thought I was snobby.

Overheal

Your nervousness is probably becoming paranoia, paranoia that people are always talking behind your back, always plotting to exclude you from things.

Been there.

**** it OP. Really. It's college, and a blessing in disguise that you don't have a dozen people trying to drag you out to get ****faced 5 nights a week. Getting a degree is hard work that a lot of those people, quite frankly, don't realize and are not prepared for. I would stop worrying about what they're doing, focus on what you're doing, and things are likely going to sort themselves out, when they're all scratching their heads and you understand the material.

Moving around is not a good idea at all. Its time and energy consuming and you never know what new situation you will find yourself in.

JimmyCrackCorn

If your unhappy move out. I never lived with friends in college, while I did make friends with my house mates I always kept a certain polite distance as I need space to relax.

I actually let a friend from my past move in for six weeks quite recently and to say it didn't work was an understatement.

If its not working for you move somewhere else where you can focus on college and get what needs to be done, done.

trooperdx3117

Thanks guyss I dont feel like im trying to be stand offish or snobbish usually I try to be as friendly as possible to them, I guess the thing I find frustrating is that it feels like I have done my best to be friends with them and they havent really given me a chance, we've never even gone on a night out together, I have to go to my friends in other colleges for nights out, its just frustrating when im not even sure myself what it is that has made them ignore me basically