Crush!

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Just a quick one for y’all!
I have a crush on a guy at work who I’m pretty sure is single.
We work in different departments and have no real reason to communicate.
I work on reception however so he could walk past me or ask me for stationary or that kind
of thing but he doesn’t really which leads me to believe that he mustn’t fancy me. My logic
Is that if he liked me, he’d find reasons to talk to me!

Am I right in thinking that way? Without being big headed I think I’m a pretty girl and I’m slim
Whatcha think?

crushblush

crushblush wrote: »

Hi Guys,

Just a quick one for y’all!
I have a crush on a guy at work who I’m pretty sure is single.
We work in different departments and have no real reason to communicate.
I work on reception however so he could walk past me or ask me for stationary or that kind
of thing but he doesn’t really which leads me to believe that he mustn’t fancy me. My logic
Is that if he liked me, he’d find reasons to talk to me!

Am I right in thinking that way? Without being big headed I think I’m a pretty girl and I’m slim
Whatcha think?

No not necessarily.

I don't think that women realise just how daunting it is for a guy to make conversation with a girl he doesn't know without making it too obvious he fancies her. Not blowing my own trumphet but sometimes i see girls eyeing me up and start blushing and everything but if i was to try talk to these girls as i have learned from past experience, and it could be something very general, they would just clam up and act real standoffish whether that is out of insecurities they may have or just shyness, or following some daft advice from a friend or they got from a magazine i dunno.

i also fall into that category, that when i talk to a fit girl in a formal way i just assume that because this girl isn't being one bit flirtatious toward me that i wouldnt stand a hope with her when to be honest ill prob never know whether i would or not.


Not saying you are doing either, but even if you were then it would still be hard for the bloke to know how to go about it.

I dont think you sound big headed by the way, why shouldn't you feel good about your appearance? Us Irish seem to feel we would blend in better if we play ourselves down.

there is no harm in anyone thinking 'yeah, i look really great' but its when they start thinking 'i look better then everyone' then its probably overstepping the line into vanity.

We just don't realise that the line between being vain and being humble is alot more blurred then we think.

Soul Stretcher

I, for one, think you're wrong to think that way.

1. The two of ye are at work. He will be conscious of the need to be professional at all times. Also receptionists can be pretty important in some workplaces. For example, they often have a lot of contact with Senior Management organizing stuff, they often hold the Golden keys to the Stationary cupboard and can be active in Sports & Social etc. In other words, he doesn't want to rub you up (forgive the phrasing ) the wrong way. It's not like you work in a Shop or something where there would be no work-environment consequences for him. Speaking from experience, some work-places are Gossip-addicted.

2. He might very well fancy you but, in my opinion, you will have to give him some SMALL indication that you are friendly and approachable and more interested in him than any other male colleagues of yours. I'm not talking undoing your top button in front of him (:D), I'm just talking about saying hi to him anytime you pass him, perhaps going to the Canteen (if there is one) at the same time or just putting yourself in the same place as him for a couple of minutes to allow the opportunity to chat.

That would be enough for him to strike/ask you out if he is interested.

Good Luck !

Soul Stretcher

Soul Stretcher wrote: »

I, for one, think you're wrong to think that way.

1. The two of ye are at work. He will be conscious of the need to be professional at all times. Also receptionists can be pretty important in some workplaces. For example, they often have a lot of contact with Senior Management organizing stuff, they often hold the Golden keys to the Stationary cupboard and can be active in Sports & Social etc. In other words, he doesn't want to rub you up (forgive the phrasing ) the wrong way. It's not like you work in a Shop or something where there would be no work-environment consequences for him. Speaking from experience, some work-places are Gossip-addicted.

2. He might very well fancy you but, in my opinion, you will have to give him some SMALL indication that you are friendly and approachable and more interested in him than any other male colleagues of yours. I'm not talking undoing your top button in front of him (:D), I'm just talking about saying hi to him anytime you pass him, perhaps going to the Canteen (if there is one) at the same time or just putting yourself in the same place as him for a couple of minutes to allow the opportunity to chat.

That would be enough for him to strike/ask you out if he is interested.

Good Luck !

Thing is even if a girl does appear approachable then men are still that little bit intimidated, and like as you said there is the gossip factor so if she did say hello to him and he didn't show interest after that then she wouldn't want to take it to heart but if she is interested then essentially your right she prob should show an indication

LegacyUser

Agree with above.

Office flirtations are fraught with danger. Be open and friendly if you have any encounters try to walk that fine line between flirty and subtlety. It's all in the eyes. Slightly lingering looks are nice and safe. Smile slightly more than required too. If you have precious little to do with him, I would consider the old 'excuse me, don't I know you from somewhere' chestnut to break the ice, maybe. At least that could be the beginning of some rapport.

If it gives you any hope, after months of agonizing, I decided to bite the bullet and ask out our receptionist not so long ago! I knew it was risky but hell, it was my happiness we were talking about!! She shot me down but ah well, nothing ventured nothing gained though.