Can you live a double life without it affecting you?

Marlboro82

Finally gave in and joined after being a long time lurker.. it's a word I double checked

Quarter to five and I'm wide awake trying to figure something out, hopefully somebody somewhere can give me a little clarity. Apologies if it's in the wrong place, I'm a newbie

Anywho on to the point, let's say I have a friend called "Mary" and she has been sleeping with her friend "Sean" for awhile but he has a girlfriend, now she has been sleeping with him before the girlfriend arrived on the scene, not that that gives her a claim or anything..

This has become quite a normal situation for "mary" and "sean" but I'm wondering how is it that "sean" can to the outside world have a very happy relationship while he is basically having a long term affair with his friend. It's a double life he is leading, is it just men who can do this?

These 2 parallel relationships if its what you would call them are destined for collision and disaster, right?

Now just to be clear "mary" doesnt want to go out with "sean" or anything like that, its just some kind of habit that has formed.

So my main Q is how the hell can "sean" do it so normally? and why the hell has "mary" got no sense?!?! :rolleyes:...just twigged thats a line from a song!

Count Duckula

I've always heard it said that men are much better at detaching emotion and / or compartmentalising parts of their lives. They can live a perfectly "normal" life while doing something deviant on the side that even they may only be semi-aware of when they're not doing it. Hence men make much better serial killers!

Maple

I've moved this from TLL, *think* it better suited here.

Mods if you don't agree then please bounce back.

Maple.

sbsquarepants

If anything i'd say women are more likely to have double lives. Women in general make much better liars than men, of course there are exceptions to every "rule"!
I actually used to work with a guy who had two families with 2 different women (one of whom was his wife!) and a steady stream of girlfriends. He had a whole second identity and had lived this way for years ( i only found out after he left the job from a mutual friend) I just can't get my head around the practicalities of living like that. I mean when he was with 1 family where did the other one think he was? It's bizzare!

metrovelvet

^ I dont know how they handle it without cracking up.

metrovelvet

Looking back, were there any early signs of his character?

kerryman12

sbsquarepants wrote: »

If anything i'd say women are more likely to have double lives. Women in general make much better liars than men, of course there are exceptions to every "rule"!

I dont know can you make huge genralisations like that, surely it is down to individual???

I just dont know how people can go through life like this, but obviously some do.

Ickle Magoo

Personal issues/Relationship issues are advice forum to ask posters their advice on personal or relationship issues you are having.

If you want a more generalised discussion then Humanities is for serious discussions, The Gentleman's Club or The Ladies Lounge depending on whether you are male/female and wishing to discuss an issue pertinent to that gender or After Hours for a less serious thread.

As this isn't a personal nor relationship issue for you, I'm closing the thread.

If you aren't sure you are posting in the right place, there is a forum charter sticked at the top of each front page.

Many thanks

Ickle. :cool: