How long of a wait is acceptable?

Date_less

Hi guys,

Ok there's a bit of a preamble to this one - out of a 9 year relationship about a year and a half. While I've kissed a good few guys since I've been single, I've actually only been on dates with three different guys, while there were texts with a few others.

Most guys I've given my number to were good and texted me within a day or two. But the last few times I hit it off with a guy, they didnt take my number and that confused me. But no love lost, and I've gotten over it.

So now I've met a guy on Friday night. We got on great and had good chemistry. Had a great kiss in the club and he took my number. He text me a very short message when I got home that night and we had a couple of short flirty texts but I havent heard from him since.

Now I dont want to be impatient but am I wrong to think that at this stage if he was into me, he'd have text again and asked me out? I know people might say, why not text him, and I've done that in the past and it hasnt really worked out. I also kind of think: he took my number so he should pursue me if he wanted. I still feel Im new to the dating game, and if im honest, it can be the most frustrating activity in the world So advice/opinions appreciated..

I am a friend

I agree - if he is interested enough he will be in touch again but expect 50 posts now telling you to text him etc.

Same as you, when I have made the first move with a guy it has never worked out..

kevin99

I would text him and ask him for a drink only if you are prepared for a negative response and can handle that.

Otherwise dont.

I am mystified why on meeting a guy in a club you would endure a long kiss with him. You know that is what guys want.

If you really want to attract a guy, play a bit harder to get and don't open your mouth to him on meeting him in the pub.

Make him wait. If he likes you and is in to you he will.

Emme

kevin99 wrote: »

I would text him and ask him for a drink only if you are prepared for a negative response and can handle that.

Otherwise dont.

I am mystified why on meeting a guy in a club you would endure a long kiss with him. You know that is what guys want.

If you really want to attract a guy, play a bit harder to get and don't open your mouth to him on meeting him in the pub.

Make him wait. If he likes you and is in to you he will.

That's a bit harsh towards the OP and reeks of double-standard. If she fancied the guy why shouldn't she kiss him?

If you went out, met a girl you liked and kissed her would you think she was a slut for kissing you? That's a strange attitude.

OP, I wouldn't text the guy, if he likes you he'll get in touch. However, that's no reason not to kiss guys if you feel like it at the time. Life is for living!

Date_less

Thanks for your replies guys.

To be fair Kevin99, while I appreciate your perspective as a guy, I agree with Emme. It wasnt like we were mucking into eachother like a pair of teenagers! We had got on well and I obviously fancied him, and I don't feel like I betrayed my dignity by kissing him - all I simply said was that it was a really good kiss

The way I look at it anyway is that the guy who's interested in me, is the guy that I want to be interested in, so no text; his loss!

Taltos

Just wondering OP if your replies might be a little bit too full-on? Now from what you have said already I have no idea - just tossing some thoughts out there.

Otherwise maybe just kick back a bit and enjoy the attention, hopefully soon you will meet a bloke that wants a little bit more. For what it's worth I like SF's idea - I do get that some blokes might be threatened - but personally I always loved strong funny women who knew what they wanted.

Best of luck
T

Date_less

Taltos wrote: »

Just wondering OP if your replies might be a little bit too full-on? Now from what you have said already I have no idea - just tossing some thoughts out there.

My replies to what now? These posts or the texts!? In any case I can answer no to both

Cheers for your comment anyway.

mood

I am a friend wrote: »

I agree - if he is interested enough he will be in touch again but expect 50 posts now telling you to text him etc.

Same as you, when I have made the first move with a guy it has never worked out..

I've had the same experience as well!

Maybe he wanted to avoid valentines day considering you only meet so I wouldn't draw a line under it yet.