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Looking for a womans point of view

  • 13-02-2011 9:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi ladies and maybe gents if ye think ye can contribute,
    Just lookin for a bit of advice so will go unreg for this one. Im a guy in my mid twenties and have always been generally shy in making the first move on women im attracted to. I have no problem in meeting women but i am actually useless at making the first move especially when not drinking, which is a sad reflection on me i reckon.

    I am useless at reading the signs and often afraid that i might offend by making a move so usually dont in the end.

    I know its a confidence thing but how do i get around it, its like a mental block i have. i seem to think too much and never make a move unless i have been drinking. Alcohal is good to give you confidence in these situations but i dont want to rely on this as im not into pubs and clubs really anymore.

    The reason im asking this is because i want to ask a girl out that i have only spoken to only once on the street. We pass each other every morning going to work at the same time and i would love to ask her out on a date or something but afraid she might think im nuts as i have only spoke to her once really. I would never ask strangers out like this so just looking for some feedback on it.
    I reckon i would freak her out and thats whats stoppin me from askin. What do women think, i think she likes me but i could be wrong and thats whats holding me back and the fact that ill have to pass her in shame if she says she not interested.


    Im thinking its a confidence thing myself but anyway if anyone thinks they can give me some good advice then im willing to listen.

    Anyway boardsies, any advice would be welcome.


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  • #2
    Lux23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,134 ✭✭✭Lux23


    Your a brave man if you do this and I really wish I had taken a chance with someone I used to see going to work alot.

    Here's a couple of things you can look out for.
    1. Does she seem to looking at you as you walk by? Or if you catch her looking does she look away?
    2. Try smiling at her one morning, a nod and a smile the next morning and maybe work up to a good morning. See how she reacts.

    If she doesn't respond or looks uncomfortable (be careful not to confuse that with flustered or nervous) then leave it but if she smiles back then just go for it one morning.


  • #3
    Corkblowin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 622 ✭✭✭Corkblowin


    Hey man....been there done that!! :D

    Read through this thread, you have the advantage over me that you have at least spoken!

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?threadid=2056120955

    Post 28 gives my final thoughts on it but what I would really recommend is to have your conversation, say what you have to say, and then give her your number and ask her to text/call if shes interested....I think that would be the best approach as initial reaction of a girl in that position will nearly always be no! It had been my intention to do that, unfortunately my speech went out the window the moment she said hi! back!!

    Good luck!!


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