What the heck is confidence? Give your view.

CorkMan

IMO it is the exact same thing as belief. "If you see it you can believe it."

People talk about confidence in many matters; Sports, Relationships, Careers. IMO seperating the 2 worlds just confuses people. It is all about faith in yourself.

brummytom

Yeah, I'd saying having confidence in something means you've faith in it. Often that's blind faith bordering on delusion, but that seems to be 'confidence'.

KylieWyley

A misplaced faith in oneself or too much faith in oneself would be arrogance.

Its a fine line.

Unpossible

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Hang on, this isn't my leaving cert essay

PeakOutput

KylieWyley wrote: »

A misplaced faith in oneself or too much faith in oneself would be arrogance.

Its a fine line.

no its not

being outwardly and overly confident i would say is arrogance

nobody needs to be told how confident you are or arent, your actions will show that. you could be the most confident person in the world, if you dont talk about it or boast about it or put other people down about it your still not arrogant

Up-n-atom!

I would say it's being able to do things in life without being duly held back by doubts etc. As in the confidence to do something, not being afraid (or not so afraid that you don't try). So it can be a sort of 'ballsy'-ness, having a 'thick neck', but I also think a person can have a quiet confidence (rather than an in-your-face type).

Devil08

Confidence is approaching a girl in a bar with a whitty chat up line.


Belief is knowing its not gonna work and she is gonna tell you to fcuk off..

honru

PeakOutput wrote: »

being outwardly and overly confident i would say is arrogance

To me arrogance is an inflated sense of importance about oneself. I think someone can be both very confident and humble.

KylieWyley

PeakOutput wrote: »

no its not

being outwardly and overly confident i would say is arrogance

nobody needs to be told how confident you are or arent, your actions will show that. you could be the most confident person in the world, if you dont talk about it or boast about it or put other people down about it your still not arrogant

yeah, you're right. sorry, I meant being confident to the degree that you have to flaunt your abilities/personality in everybody's face or, as pointed out, an inflated sense of self-worth.

a humble self-assuredness, on the other hand, is very attractive in a person.

steddyeddy

The absense of anxiety

Wolfe Tone

How you feel after a few beers?

pragmatic1

Confidence is a self belief that is justified.

AnonoBoy

Confidence is an exciting new fragrance from Calvin Klein.

stupidusername

AnonoBoy wrote: »

Confidence is an exciting new fragrance from Calvin Klein.

except for it's pronounced with a french accent

:cool:

Red Hand

AnonoBoy wrote: »

Confidence is an exciting new fragrance from Calvin Klein.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hbe6zAjqOhY

Hmmm...I still don't know what confidence is. Cause, you could have great self belief and be absolutely sh*t/dangerous in what you are doing.

"Booo-di-doooo...I'm such a confident driver....dooo-dee-doooo...oh hello Mr Brick Wall!"

CorkMan

I like boxing. What the top trainers say is that talent isn't what makes a fighter, it is confidence that makes them great.

Snakeblood

In america it's a handgun.

mikom

Confidence is a preference for the habitual voyeur of what is known as parklife.

peasant

Confidence is not having to seek encouragement from others.

Arrogance is not knowing your limitations

steddyeddy

peasant wrote: »

Confidence is not having to seek encouragement from others.

Arrogance is not knowing your limitations

Well thats true but the birth of confidence would be getting encouragent from others ensuring you never have to seek it!

peasant

steddyeddy wrote: »

Well thats true but the birth of confidence would be getting encouragent from others ensuring you never have to seek it!

That's what mammies are for

pragmatic1

peasant wrote: »

Confidence is not having to seek encouragement from others.

Arrogance is not knowing your limitations

Thats one of the best definitions I've heard for confidence.

steddyeddy

peasant wrote: »

That's what mammies are for

Ah we arent all as lucky

slum dog

CorkMan wrote: »

IMO it is the exact same thing as belief. "If you see it you can believe it."

People talk about confidence in many matters; Sports, Relationships, Careers. IMO seperating the 2 worlds just confuses people. It is all about faith in yourself.

confidence is knowing your place amongst people, (your limits), but its subconcious

steddyeddy

slum dog wrote: »

confidence is knowing your place amongst people, (your limits), but its subconcious

What do you man knowing your place?

slum dog

steddyeddy wrote: »

What do you man knowing your place?

knowing how your perceived by others and evolving from that

Red Hand

steddyeddy wrote: »

What do you man knowing your place?

Your social station. The working masses, the bourgoisie and gentry.

whydoibother?

I kind of wish outward displays of confidence weren't perceived as arrogance. I think it's to do with our love of begrudgery. Nobody says they are good at something until they are completely sure they won't fail becuase then the sniggering would commence. It would be a lot better if people who had a go were looked up to. I've never quite gotten it. Quiet self-belief is good, but outward self-belief is bad. Why?

liah

Confidence is genuinely not caring what anyone else thinks and just doing what makes you happy.

It's not rubbing your accomplishments in everyone's face, nor is it about putting other people down. It's just about being happy doing your own thing.

slum dog

whydoibother? wrote: »

I kind of wish outward displays of confidence weren't perceived as arrogance. I think it's to do with our love of begrudgery. Nobody says they are good at something until they are completely sure they won't fail becuase then the sniggering would commence. It would be a lot better if people who had a go were looked up to. I've never quite gotten it. Quiet self-belief is good, but outward self-belief is bad. Why?

confident people dont have to show their confident. people who demonstrate they're confident usually arent

yeah, the line between confidence and arrogance has blurred in the last 30ish years, (imo) due to the americanisation of society i think..confidence is now seen as the norm, and has changed into arrogance on many levels i think..

whydoibother?

slum dog wrote: »

confident people dont have to show their confident. people who demonstrate they're confident usually arent

I'm not saying it's necessary to display confidence. I'm just wondering why is it unnecessary? There's this automatic assumption that it is bad, I just want to know why? What harm does it do?

mikom

whydoibother? wrote: »

I'm not saying it's necessary to display confidence. I'm just wondering why is it unnecessary? There's this automatic assumption that it is bad, I just want to know why? What harm does it do?

Brian Lenihan and Brian Cowen were confident the economy turned a corner............

slum dog

whydoibother? wrote: »

I'm not saying it's necessary to display confidence. I'm just wondering why is it unnecessary? There's this automatic assumption that it is bad, I just want to know why? What harm does it do?

its boastful. nobody likes a boaster

whydoibother?

whydoibother? wrote: »

I'm not saying it's necessary to display confidence. I'm just wondering why is it unnecessary? There's this automatic assumption that it is bad, I just want to know why? What harm does it do?

I miss humility..

whydoibother?

mikom wrote: »

Brian Lenihan and Brian Cowen were confident the economy turned a corner............

That's an example of incompetence and unjustified confidence. I talking about where somebody says "I'm good at X and I'm going to succeed at it" and is right.

whydoibother?

Deleted User wrote: »

I miss humility..

Yes, I get that everybody loves people who are humble. I don't dispute that. My question is why?

whydoibother?

slum dog wrote: »

its boastful. nobody likes a boaster

I get that. Why though?

slum dog

whydoibother? wrote: »

I get that. Why though?

it'll make u a target. it wont be long then b4 your confidence is destroyed

peasant

liah wrote: »

Confidence is genuinely not caring what anyone else thinks and just doing what makes you happy.

That's egocentrism, not confidence.

Confidence is being able to pull it off, regardless

Zillah

peasant wrote: »

Arrogance is not knowing your limitations

No, that's hubris. Arrogance is an offensive or overbearing attitude towards others.

stovelid

The ability to negotiate social situations without undue fear of consequence, and also not to negatively personalize that consequence.