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Bullied as a child

  • 06-02-2011 12:01am
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    LegacyUser
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    hey guys,hoping ill get some advice and some useful tips through this post..

    I'm pretty shy. Find it hard to look people in the eye, freeze when I've to speak one-to-one with people (that I know fairly well), talk really quickly cause I'm nervous. But worst of all, I find it very hard to get to know people and get close to them. I have no real close friend because I put up a wall that I find very difficult to break down.

    I was bullied in primary school (all girls). I was smart,very good at creative writing and I think that alot of the negativity and very hurtful behaviour and comments I received were as a result of jealousy. Quite a number of girls in my class were very competitive (as were their parents)! I had a good childhood, however (aside from this). I was given alot of praise and recognition that every child needs. But I spent alot of time with my older sister as there was only a year in the age difference. In secondary school things improved and to be honest I find myself most comfortable with the friends I made there - secondary school was a distance away from where I lived so classmates were brand new.

    I have alot of really wonderful 'friends'. I use inverted commas because I don't know if I can really call them friends. I know them and have known them for some time now but I never feel like I can break down that wall with them. I've tried to be myself but I cant be natural. They feel uncomfortable around me - I make them feel like that - and that's the worst part of it all. I've come to accept myself as a quiet, reserved person but I yearn for close friendships. I don't expect to be really outgoing etc. but I'd love to know how to be able to get closer, and become more natural, with the people I know.

    Sorry for long post,thanks guys for any advice etc offered! :)


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