Strangle social problem

LegacyUser

Hi I dont really know how to describe this because Ive NEVER heard of anyone else mention a problem like this despite me reading alot about psychology, social anxiety etc.

I know your going to think this is really whacked but here goes.

I have a strange problem with people entering my company, it settles down very quickly but its really weird and uncomfortable.
Only way to describe is give a few examples
Examples:
1.Id be sitting at home on my own, and my flatmates car arrives up in the drive, it makes me VERY SLIGHTLY uneasy thinking about having to chat or whatever. After 2/3 mins of him being there its grand again.

2. Im with a group of 2/3 people for a while, maybe a few hours and then someone 'new' comes along, like another friend(wouldnt apply to really really good friends), I feel uncomfortable like the moment is being spoiled or something and I have to redirect and put more effort into chatting to them

3. arriving at social event sober, again it only lasts for a few minutes.Now I know this one is a little different and is more related to standard social anxiety. I also believe this one is alot more normal.

4. Being with a friend, and knowing another good friend of mine is arriving that doesnt know the first friend too well, it makes me very uncomfortable.

5. Similar to 4 but this time Im the one who doesnt know the other person arriving too well, but my friend does.


Am I a weirdo? I think the last few points are a bit more normal, but its the first and second ones id really like you to pay attention to.
Even now , im at home on my own , really relaxed and I thought I heard my flatmates car arriving, i just felt uneasy. Yet when he does arrive and we chill out and watch a movie or do something, ill be back to being exactly the way i am now.

sollar

Are you generally an anxious person.

tenchi-fan

Sounds like you're over-thinking things.
It's probably far too trivial to even be mentioned in the same sentence as social anxiety. Maybe that's why you didn't read about it in your books.

WesternNight

I can identify with that, OP. I'd be much the same. For me it's always been a confidence issue, and it's improved a lot since starting college, because I've been forced to meet new people and make conversation and all that. It can seem very trivial, but it does cause some anxiety. It's good that it's just in the short-term though.

LegacyUser

I'm exactly the same and cab identify with all of the examples you gave. I don't worry about it though, I'm a pretty shy person and have no confidence in myself so I just think it's related to that