Completely hopeless with women

Idunnolol

Im not attractive in any way, shape or form. I don't even have any friends because of how unlikable I am. I used to have a circle of friends, but they ditched me because they made friends with a bunch of girls and the girls wanted nothing to do with me so I lost all my friends. Now ive reached the conclusion i will die alone. It's depressing what should I do?

Edit: I also feel I should mention I am EXTREMELY ugly, it even goes beyond that to hideous. It's so bad strangers will occasionally tell me. Also I'm really starting to resent all women, they tend to be the ones dishing out hurtful comments the most.

Debthree

Please talk to a family member you can trust - a parent, sibling, aunt etc. Also (or instead) get to your GP asap and tell him/her how low you feel. There are obviously deeper issues here. Although you are a stranger, I am quite sure that you are not as unlikeable and awful as you think you are. I am sure you have some very positive and attractive traits.

This too shall pass (but not without family and expert intervention).

Idunnolol

I am not mentally ill. I just don't like deluding myself.

Debthree

Who said anything about mental illness? You don't have to be mentally ill to seek help from a GP or from a trusted family member.

Idunnolol

Debthree wrote: »

Who said anything about mental illness? You don't have to be mentally ill to seek help from a GP or from a trusted family member.

My family are not useful for things like this. Going to a GP would be a waste of my time and his.

Distorted

Obviously you have self esteem issues, which will affect the way you approach the opposite sex. But you have had friends, before they all paired off (not an uncommon scenario and probably nothing to do witih you), so you must be a likeable person who can use their personality to attract the right person.

Are you doing what you can for your appearance? There are actually a lot of ugly people out there and it doesn't mean you will never find a girlfriend as there are more important qualities. But how good is your personal grooming? Is your diet and exercise regime good so that at least you look fit and healthy? How about your skin and can you improve it if its bad?

I wouldn't pay much attention to nasty comments from strangers in the street. I'm generally considered to be quite pretty, but every so often a stranger will take it upon themselves to make a critical comment on my appearance. For example, I have quite pouty lips, and I've had people ask me if I've had Botox in them, I've had a comment about my long blond hair and how I should get it cut, about my small snub nose, etc.! Female friends have had comments about their chest size and the size of their bums, nearly always when there is nothing to criticise!

Try not to resent women. They are just people, who are entitled to make the decisions they want to. No woman has to accept an offer from a man, and vice versa. Nothing will put off women more, even uglieness, than a guy who obviously just wants to use them for his own pleasure and who doesn't seem to like them. If someone feels that someone is approaching them with such an aim in mind, their response may be unconsidered and rude because they feel threatened. And if you begin to resent women, that leaves you with men, or being alone. Be patient.

gerryk

Idunnolol wrote: »

Edit: I also feel I should mention I am EXTREMELY ugly, it even goes beyond that to hideous. It's so bad strangers will occasionally tell me. Also I'm really starting to resent all women, they tend to be the ones dishing out hurtful comments the most.

Distorted wrote: »

I wouldn't pay much attention to nasty comments from strangers in the street. I'm generally considered to be quite pretty, but every so often a stranger will take it upon themselves to make a critical comment on my appearance. For example, I have quite pouty lips, and I've had people ask me if I've had Botox in them, I've had a comment about my long blond hair and how I should get it cut, about my small snub nose, etc.! Female friends have had comments about their chest size and the size of their bums, nearly always when there is nothing to criticise!

I'm a bit shocked by this... do you both mean that people approach you, unsolicited and start making personal comments about your appearance?

That is a level of ugly that transcends anything physical.

LegacyUser

Never say ur ugly, there is something nice about you, u are too hard on urself.....look for the good and people will see the good in you.

Idunnolol

Distorted, it did have something to do with me. Those girls TOLD them to stop being friends with me. Besides, this was years ago. Every attempt I make at getting friends fails because I'm not a likeable person at all.

I lift weights everyday because I'm an obese ****, not quite so since I started but I'm still fat. I never had skin problems either.

The difference between us being insulted on the street is I actually am ugly. You know how many people have told me I'm good looking? One. My mother. And she was drunk at the time too. Usually I need to post my picture to convince people how ugly I am, I dont to do that but believe me when I say its bad, REALLY bad.

I've also accepted already I will be alone my whole life. I also dont believe there is anything more important to women than look, except money I suppose.

gerryk

You know, if it wasn't frowned upon, I would kinds think there was something a little trollish about this thread.

I mean, come on...

You know how many people have told me I'm good looking? One. My mother. And she was drunk at the time too.

That sounds like something a bad standup comedian might come out with.

Are you serious, or just having a laugh at the boardsies being all concerned?

seamus

Unhelpful or off-topic posting will result in a ban from this forum. gerryk, if you have no advice to provide, please do not post in the thread

OP, please report posts if you have a problem with them and the moderators will deal with it.

gerryk

Apologies.

IrishEyes19

OP, I think perhaps talking to someone will help. As beating yourself up only seems right now to igniting more negative and aggressive comments from yourself. Talking with someone professional would be a step forward. All the best.