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Still on my mind

  • 03-02-2011 10:15am
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    LegacyUser
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    Hi fellow boardsies,

    Going unreg for this one. Not sure what i'm looking for really. I'll keep it short as possible. I worked with a really nice group of people a good few years ago and we became friends. Kept in contact with a few of them for a few years after and just kind of fizzled out. Thing is there was one guy in particular who I was a bit besotted with, he was a good friend, but i'd be lying if I said I didn't feel more for him.I thought maybe this was just a teenage thing or something. Briefly ran in to him a couple of times in the last few years but that's it. The problem is he's still on my mind, I had a dream about him last night :( I check his FB sometimes too (we are friends). I would be mortified if anyone knew about this they'd think i'm some psycho. How do you forget about people and move on, surely this can't be healthy behaviour.


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    Distorted
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    Are you both single? Why not send him a message on FB and see what happens? It might be that you are idolising him a bit from not knowing him well though, ie you only know his good points. In general, I think you stop thinking about people like this either by having such a fulfilling and complete life you just forget about them, or you find out the reality isn't as good as you think!

    Something similar happened to me except I didn't instigate it. At uni I was sort of dating this guy who then went off with one of my friends who was more forward and flirty than me. Kept bumping into him over the years and always got on well. By this time he was married with two young children. This summer I had put on my FB status that I was doing a certain sports event, and he turned up unexpectedly to watch with his young daughter. Chatted away to him. The next day he texted me to suggest that he come to stay at my house that weekend and do various date type things. He had it all planned. I was totally repulsed. I had heard rumours of him with other women and now he had me lined up next! So I no longer think of him as the charming, slightly shy young man he was once, rather than just a man who wanted to cheat on his wife. Sometimes its better to keep the good memories and let sleeping dogs lie.


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    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Distorted wrote: »
    Are you both single? Why not send him a message on FB and see what happens? It might be that you are idolising him a bit from not knowing him well though, ie you only know his good points. In general, I think you stop thinking about people like this either by having such a fulfilling and complete life you just forget about them, or you find out the reality isn't as good as you think!

    Something similar happened to me except I didn't instigate it. At uni I was sort of dating this guy who then went off with one of my friends who was more forward and flirty than me. Kept bumping into him over the years and always got on well. By this time he was married with two young children. This summer I had put on my FB status that I was doing a certain sports event, and he turned up unexpectedly to watch with his young daughter. Chatted away to him. The next day he texted me to suggest that he come to stay at my house that weekend and do various date type things. He had it all planned. I was totally repulsed. I had heard rumours of him with other women and now he had me lined up next! So I no longer think of him as the charming, slightly shy young man he was once, rather than just a man who wanted to cheat on his wife. Sometimes its better to keep the good memories and let sleeping dogs lie.

    I'm not single. yeah I want to forget about him but having dreams etc means it's not going away. Part of me thinks i'd like to even have him as a friend as I really enjoyed his company and we got on well. I'm just confused I suggested meeting when by chance I bumped into him one day but never heard anything back.


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