Is he just not that into me? :P

LegacyUser

Going unreg for this, because I have a conundrum!! I don't think it's a PI issue though, I'm more just looking for viewpoints and opinions than solutions! But if the mods want to move it that's cool!

There's this reaaally hot guy who works in a shop in town, he's there like one day a week and I normally see him when I go in. I've always thought he was overly friendly, but I was in a relationship so thought nothing more of it. Anyways, the other day I was in and there was no-one else in the shop, and he started a bit of a convo with me. He was just asking where I worked and if I lived in the area, because he saw me in there alot. We were only chatting for about 5mins, but you know when you just get that feeling that someone likes you?

Anyway, I got home and decided fcuk it, I'm going back to give him my number. So I wrote it down in a wee note, and went back to give it to him, but when I got there he wasn't there! I hung around for a few mins and he came downstairs, turns out he was stocking and someone else was on the til. I didn't have the nerve to hand it to him with other people there, so when he went back up stairs I put it sitting on the stock boxes he'd be unpacking when he came back down!

The jist of the story is though, that I must have read him COMPLETELY wrong, because he hasn't called... BURN! But it's a shame because that shop was handy to pop into, and not a hope am I going in there again now!! Cringe...

I've been thinking maybe he didn't get it, because I put it in an unmarked envelope..or that maybe the lady at the till found it instead and he got embarrassed. I don't know..So, do I accept that he's just not that into me? Or do I go in as usual at the weekend and see what he says... (that's going to take some nerve!)

krudler

he prob didnt get it, why not just ask him out next time you're in?

LegacyUser

krudler wrote: »

he prob didnt get it, why not just ask him out next time you're in?

That would be the logical thing to do.

However, I think I'd actually die on the spot, hence the problem... I really should have just handed it to him in the first place, and I would have if he was the only one there, but I just didn't have the nerve!

krudler

least you'll know, I'd prefer to know and be sure rather than wondering about it, he may just have not gotten it or not noticed it and threw away the box.

now you know what men go through asking girls out :pac:

LegacyUser

krudler wrote: »

least you'll know, I'd prefer to know and be sure rather than wondering about it, he may just have not gotten it or not noticed it and threw away the box.

now you know what men go through asking girls out :pac:

Haha true! You have my sympathy!!

It wouldn't be as bad if he was the only one in the store at the time, but there's nearly always someone in there with him, arghh...

Maple

Moved from TLL, feel it better suited here.

Maple.

VW 1

Go for it OP better to have tried and failed than to have never tried at all!

LegacyUser

Thanks guys

I only see him there at the weekends so I'll have a look then!! I don't know what I should say though, I mean what if he doesn't say anything?!

IrishEyes19

depends on what the note said OP,

was his name on the actual note with your number saying it was for him. He probably didnt have a clue what it was about. For all he knew he knew it could have been a number of a supplier for the shop.

LegacyUser

IrishEyes19 wrote: »

depends on what the note said OP,

was his name on the actual note with your number saying it was for him. He probably didnt have a clue what it was about. For all he knew he knew it could have been a number of a supplier for the shop.

I basically said I was the girl who was in a few mins ago chatting to him, and to give me a call if he'd like to go for a drink after work... It was pretty obvious

His name wasn't on it though, because I don't know his name! But he's the only guy working there.

dub_3

Maybe there's another way to sort this out, can you give us a bit more info

What kind of shop is it?
What do you buy there?
Do you know his name?
Does he know your name?

Anything else at all you know about him?
What did you talk about with him?

Do you work near there?
Do you and he finish work at a similar time?

Any clue what he does for lunch?

LegacyUser

dub_3 wrote: »

Maybe there's another way to sort this out, can you give us a bit more info

What kind of shop is it?
A healthstore

What do you buy there?
Food

Do you know his name?
Nope

Does he know your name?
He does now, if he got the note.

Anything else at all you know about him?
No..

What did you talk about with him?
Basically he just asked how I was etc., then asked if I worked near by because he saw me in there alot, and I told him I lived nearby. It wasn't anything mad exciting, just idle chit chat.

Do you work near there?
Not really, but I live nearby

Do you and he finish work at a similar time?
No idea

Any clue what he does for lunch?
Nope, I don't stalk the guy!

Hey..I'm not sure what other way you're talking about but I'm open to suggestions!
My answers are above! I really don't know anything about him. All I'm going on is that he's always really friendly, that he started a conversation with me this time, and I find him attractive! So as you can see, I could have misread him completely!

dub_3

Ok some ideas, the main thing is to start a conversation.

Pick up two similarish items and ask him which is better?
Get talking about healthy stuff, throw in a line about eating healthier during the day making you feel less guilty about going for the few pints (and a take away) later.

Then ask him if he drinks around here, if yes, ask where, then you can say sometimes I got there, or what's it like there. then ask if he wants to meet you there later.

If he says no to drinking locally, say I sometimes go to X, wanna meet there later.

If you're still gettin a no, then say another time maybe, if he doesn't reject that or say he has a girlfriend, then ask for his number.


If you want to get more mileage out of asking him about products, then find a recipe for something healthy that requires several items from his shop. Write the items out in a list. If necessary pretend not to be able to find some of the items on the list. Or ask him to recommend items. Tell him about your healthy cooking 'experiment'. You could say "you're a bit of a disaster in the kitchen, nearly poisoned your last boyfriend" (i.e. telling him you're single now)
If you're brazen enough you could add "but, you've never had any complaints in the bedroom" then go with the "trying to be healthy but ruining it by going to the pub" etc...

LegacyUser

dub_3 wrote: »

If you want to get more mileage out of asking him about products, then find a recipe for something healthy that requires several items from his shop. Write the items out in a list. If necessary pretend not to be able to find some of the items on the list. Or ask him to recommend items. Tell him about your healthy cooking 'experiment'. You could say "you're a bit of a disaster in the kitchen, nearly poisoned your last boyfriend" (i.e. telling him you're single now)
If you're brazen enough you could add "but, you've never had any complaints in the bedroom" then go with the "trying to be healthy but ruining it by going to the pub" etc...

God no..that wouldn't be like me at all, not my style! Thanks for your advice though Plus, I've already given him my number, so the main point of going in is to see if he actually got it!

I know his name now actually, it was on a receipt I had... not that it's really of much use to me!

I just have to suck it up, and go in and ask him if he got my note I guess!

dub_3

Unsure! wrote: »

I know his name now actually, it was on a receipt I had... not that it's really of much use to me!

A word of warning sometimes the names on receipts can be wrong, might be name of someone who worked there years ago and noone bothers to change it.

Anyhow next time you buy something, glance at the receipt and say "Thanks <insert_name_here>, by the way I'm <Unsure!>"

If there's noone else in the shop then ask him out and / or explain the fcuk up with trying to give him your number, otherwise just walk away, at least he knows your name now.

Now you both know each others names you could try to phone the shop and ask to speak to him, then just ask him out.

P.S. my wife rang my mother to get my number in order to ask me out, so you got it easy relatively speaking.