Made a balls of it

LegacyUser

Ok i was out on a date a couple of weeks ago with a local girl. i ended up really liking her.
The following few days we werent really in contact too much so i took this as she wasnt that interested.
So the other night after a few beers i just sent her a message on facebook basically sayin that i kinda missed her and that its a shame she wasnt interested. that was all.
so turns out she was interested and was looking forward to going on another date but that i freaked her out abit with that message so now she is not interested!
I am sick as a dog that i have messed it up. and the thing is that im not a pushy person like that.
she was in a relationship for 10 yrs, she was married and wanted to take things slowly. but i mistook that for her not being interested.
sooo is there anything i can do?? cant believe i ****ed it up.
we had a great time the other week too

Miss Fluff

Seems like your confidence is pretty low hon, how becomes?

If you were interested at the time you probably should have just asked her out again rather than jump to conclusions and sabotage it for yourself! I'd be inclined to chalk this one down to (a not so good) experience and learn from it. Believe in yourself a bit more and next time ask the girl out!

LegacyUser

I did ask her a couple of days later if she wanted to meet for lunch but she said she was busy. so thats when i assumed she wasnt interested.
Yes my confidence isnt the greatest. need to sort it.

IrishEyes19

Fair enough, you probably came across a little needy in your message to her about being interested. But to be honest people can be so up and down about texting and calling that sometimes it does play havoc on your head with whether or not they're actually interested and some people literarly do not call back ever again.

So to be honest, OP, if she's gone all cold turkey after one little mistake such as saying you had a nice time pity she wasnt interested, then let her go. To be honest she's making a mountain out a molehill, if thats the biggest error she thinks can be made in a relationship, dating scene, then my god is she in for a shock. Move on and find someone who isnt scared so easily. best of luck

royal blue

Similar thing happened to me around Xmas. This girl came up to me and said she really liked me and had done for a while, and had basically a future mapped out already. First i wasnt too sure bout her but as i got to know her more, i got to really like her and met 2 or 3 times after. So after the holidays I decided to ask her out. Here is where her attitude or whatever you would like to call it changed towards me. Got the too tired after work thing, then i got dont want a relationship thing and would love to be friends. So that was fine, met her out during the week and she barely acknowledged me and kinda blanked me aswell.

So i left where we were and basically left her behind for good. I know longer think about her they way i did. As i done nothing wrong and she said i didnt so what more could i do.

I think you would be better off to forget her move on and let her realise the mistake she has made, and if she doesnt come back, You havent lost anything and might have found the right one.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies

Monkey Allen

Women are strange. It looks to me like she said she was interested to save her own face and make her look good. Forget about her. Plenty more fish in the pub.

pollypocket10

Just my 2 cents.

If you are really into a guy and he tells you he missed you it's the sweetest thing in the world.

If you're not into a guy and he says it then it's creepy.

I don't think she was interested, she maybe just felt saying that would soften the blow. Move on, plenty more fish in the sea you just have to catch the right one.

LegacyUser

I don't think she was interested either. However I would leave her another message just saying "Okay, if you would like to go on another date anytime, just let me know" No harm in leaving the connection open, you never know in a couple of weeks she might.