boyfriend a ward of court

levi lee

So im with my boyfriend for 10yrs now and love him dearly,although there is one problem that i just cant get out of my head.He had a car crash before i met him and his mother made him a ward of court.He got big money from the crash but the courts are paying this to him as an allowance rather then giving him the amount in full to spend on a house or even to invest.
For the first few yrs we were together i never thought about this much,but since i now have 2 children with him and seeing as the money is very tight,(we are on social welfare and he also gets a small allowance from court each week)
its been playing on my mind more and more.
Iv come to find that while being a ward of court,he is not allowed to marry,which is something iv always wanted to do,and as he says himself he wants to marry me also.
He decided to apply to buy a house about 5yrs ago,after out first child was born and got the go ahead by the courts,he paid for an engineer to give the place a once over and brought the sellers down a fair bit in price as advised by the courts.Once the contract was handed over the courts pulled the plug on the whole thing leaving us with no where to live as we had givin our notice into the landlord.to cut a long and boreing story short.....we are struggling every week to provide for our kids and pay rent ect,and here he is with thousands in his bank account that he is not allowed use to give our children a good future.
He has no motivation to go tru it all over again incase we are in for another big disapointment and seems to just brush it under the rug as if it doesnt exist,while i on the other hand have never been the kind to give up easily,so its very frustrating for me.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to what can be done?I know its a long shot,thanks in advance.

Nevyn

You need to get legal advice to find out what exact is the situation.

ztoical

Thaedydal wrote: »

You need to get legal advice to find out what exact is the situation.

+ 1 you really need to seek legal advice as something doesn't add up with what you've written. Was he minor when made a ward of court or did he suffer from head injuries as a result of the car crash? If he was made a ward of court as minor and was awarded damages the courts only manage the money until he turns 18. If you've been together for 10 years and have two children he can't still be a minor and as such a ward of court only if he is mental incapacited. If for some reason he is still a ward of court and has two children legally the court has to make sure his dependants are provided for and should have either released all the funds or increased the size of the payments. He can only not marry due to mental incapacity so you really need to clear up the details regarding the court order.

reilig

levi lee wrote: »

So im with my boyfriend for 10yrs now and love him dearly,although there is one problem that i just cant get out of my head.He had a car crash before i met him and his mother made him a ward of court.He got big money from the crash but the courts are paying this to him as an allowance rather then giving him the amount in full to spend on a house or even to invest.
For the first few yrs we were together i never thought about this much,but since i now have 2 children with him and seeing as the money is very tight,(we are on social welfare and he also gets a small allowance from court each week)
its been playing on my mind more and more.
Iv come to find that while being a ward of court,he is not allowed to marry,which is something iv always wanted to do,and as he says himself he wants to marry me also.
He decided to apply to buy a house about 5yrs ago,after out first child was born and got the go ahead by the courts,he paid for an engineer to give the place a once over and brought the sellers down a fair bit in price as advised by the courts.Once the contract was handed over the courts pulled the plug on the whole thing leaving us with no where to live as we had givin our notice into the landlord.to cut a long and boreing story short.....we are struggling every week to provide for our kids and pay rent ect,and here he is with thousands in his bank account that he is not allowed use to give our children a good future.
He has no motivation to go tru it all over again incase we are in for another big disapointment and seems to just brush it under the rug as if it doesnt exist,while i on the other hand have never been the kind to give up easily,so its very frustrating for me.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to what can be done?I know its a long shot,thanks in advance.

He will have a ward of court solicitor - someone who is familiar with his case and who deals with all of his financial issues. You should go through this solicitor for all of your needs as they will give you the full details of what you can and cannot do.

levi lee

Thank you for your replies,and yes he was made a ward of court as a result of head injuries after his crash,but his doctors have said they can not believe his recovery.He is doing amazingly well and has not had any problems at all since being released from hospital.
I will have a chat with him tonight and see can i convince him to speak with the solicitor and see if there is anything he can do,thanks again.

ravima

you may need to see a different solicitor to him. You have certain rights as do your children and your needs as well as theirs must also be looked after, not just his.

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