Leaving friend to go with a girl

LegacyUser

A few weeks ago myself and one of my mates where down in the other side of the country and we met these girls but nothing happened (another story for another day) but we have since kept in contact via FB. They asked us to come down again but there is a problem me and my friend both like the same girl and to add to matters I think her friend likes me but I have no interest in her what so ever.

I got asked by both of them go come down while the girl we are both interested asked my friend.

I am a bit of 'bro's before hoe's' type of guy as this has happened before and I stick with my bro's as I dont want them to get pissed at me even though it kills me.

So I was wondering what should I do? As if I leave my mate to get with her, I will be stuck with her mate who I do not want to get with at all.

kjl

I suppose anything passes for an issue nowadays.

Ill spell it out for you,

Her friend likes you, and she likes your mate. That is why you have been asked to come back down. This is the dynamic of that weekend. If you are true to the title of this post you will go down and let it happen. Nobody says you HAVE to score her friend, but where I am from we call that taking one for the team.

Pauleta

You gotta be your dawgs wingman, brah.

LegacyUser

Not exactly what I wanted to hear

Crea

Let your mate go down on his own. Tell him you're not interested in the friend. You shouldn't have to go off with her just because your friend likes her friend. It'll just get messy cause you'll be dragged along everytime he wants to visit.
This wingman and taking one for the team talk is crap - what are you? 12?

seenitall

Crea wrote: »

Let your mate go down on his own.

This.

At least you know where you stand, yer one wants your friend so let them get on with it. "Bros b4 hos" is fine, but also "I'm not my brother's keeper".

Plus, it would be unnecessarily cruel to go with him, thus giving the girl who is into you cause for false hope. I can't believe I'm even explaining this!

Really, if a friend of mine asked me to travel with her solely in order to supply some "wing-woman" hand-holding while she gets with the guy who I fancy, I'm sorry but I would have to laugh in her face. As Crea says, we're not 12, are we?

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'd just go down with him. You are under no obligation to get with the friend. You can just talk to her.

LegacyUser

Ehm. She likes your mate. She doesn't like you. Does that not put an end to it?

Let him go. You dont go.