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Contacting a girl

  • 27-01-2011 3:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    When I was in college about 5 or 6 years ago, I was a shy introverted guy. In the intervening years, things have changed and now I am much more confident.

    Back in college, there was this girl that I would see around a lot and I fancied her in a big way. But I never got to know her as I never had the courage to talk to her.

    Anyways, I decided to check if she was on FB. She is and I had a look at some of her pictures, She looks even more amazing now than she did in college. She is not good looking in a super model kind of way but there is something sweet about her (I have a bit of a "theres something about mary" vibe going here!) The problem I have is that I have no idea how to get in touch with her. I cant add her on FB as I only very vaguely knew her in college and I dont want to be a stalker! I have tried seeing if we have any mutual friends but it appears not (Even though we are the same age & attended school in the same town). Who knows, maybe I'd hate her if I got to know her properly. But I cant get her out of my head now, I pray to meet her on the street randomly some day so that I can ask her out just so I dont regret not doing it in college forever. I guess theres not a whole lot I can do really but I would appreciate any advice...


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  • #2
    JohnMcNam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17 ✭JohnMcNam


    PotentialStalker? wrote: »
    When I was in college about 5 or 6 years ago........

    Hey OP,

    Well seeing as you didn't know her at all, adding her on facebook would be a terribly bad idea. Imagine the scene:

    Her: Hi, you added me, do I know you?
    You: Oh hi, i went to college with you, i used to see you around campus....

    ...do you see what i mean? So knock that on the head.
    The only way I could see you getting around adding her on facebook is by adding her randomly as if you dont know her and see what develops, but to be frank i wouldnt do that or recommend it.

    you mention you checked to see if you had any mutual friends and couldnt find any.... is there no people at all that connect you in some way no? If only you knew one of her female friends who could pass a word on to her for you.

    Do you live in the same area as her, like would you see her around much/often? ever see her out around town when your clubbing/drinking? if so, next time you see her, chat her up, offer her a drink...and then say this "you look familiar to me...did you by any chance go to [insert college name]. That would be a great starter.

    If however the only option you are left with is the facebook add, then you could add her anyway and maybe say "oh hi you looked familiar so i decided to add you"... now personally i wouldnt do that ever, but if you feel like it then maybe you can have a think about whether to do it or not, but i must say that it wont make a good impression (because, as you say she's hot, so she prob has to deal everyday with little horny teenagers/bored lads adding her on facebook) so thread carefully and give it considerate thought if you decide to go this route.


  • #3
    messymess
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 359 ✭✭messymess


    Normally I'd be the first person to say to someone 'go for it'. But I have to agree with the previous poster, it's just a bit too 'funny'.

    Being infatuated with someone you hardly know for years, probably says a lot. It says that you're not out there meeting women. There's plenty of other amazing, smashing girls out there, so go find them and forget the past.


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