mother and boyfriend dont get on!!!

pands

hi everyone, i am new to this so bare with me. i just need some objective advice on a current situation . i am 28 and boyfriend is 29

my boyfriend and i have been going out for the last 11 years, i know its along time i was 17 and he was 18 when we first started going out.everything was going great between us, my father gave me land so we decided to build a house together in 2007, but during this process he lost his job, and hasnt had any real work since that time. we moved in las feb to our new house and to be honest we hadnt a penny between us but we were happy or so i thought. any way as time went on and we came into the summer , money did get extremly tight and we did have rows abot it, this caused alot of tension between us, his reaction to this was to spend less and less time at home and more time with his friends. i felt very alone and hurt, but honestly thought that it was a rough patach ( the first we really had), and we would get through it. i knew him not haveing ajob was really affecting him, but he would never admit it to me or talk about it.

then in september, his younger brother got engaged to his girlfriend of 7 years. this really stunned both off us, i have to admit i was really upset!! because i knew with money issues we could not do that for another 2 years.but he took it that i doubted him, but he was really sweet and we consoled me and said our time would come. on top of that, and i didnt know this he had planned to propose to me at xmas and had told his BROTHER a few weeks before he proposed.i only found out about this months later. ( also his brother has a really good job and lets everyone know about it, he was always at my boyfriens bout getting a job.

it all came to a head one sunday eve in october, he had gone out to watch a match in the pub with his friends again, at about 1 o clock, he said he would be home by 6 o clock so i was fine about it. any way 6 o clock came and went and no sign of him, 7, o clock , 8 o clock .....etc. at this stage i was furious, as he hadnt even called, so i rang him and he said he was ready to come home and could i collect him, which i did.

when we got home , he knew i was really angry, but he didnt seem to care, dont know if it was the drink, but i had it out with him, and he blew me out off the water, by saying he wasnt happy, when i asked why he said he didnt know. i asked did he love me and he said he did, i just didnt under stand where this was all coming from!!! i said i would give him two days to decide what he wanted. i went to a friends house.

i came back the following he still didnt know, i asked him could we not work on it he said no, so i told him to go, the hardest thing i ever did. i think i shocked him cause for a minute he just looked at me, but he still left. he went home that eve, and i was in bits. his family and mine were very close ao naturally his family were shocked , as were mine. his family were extremly annoyed with him and and had a right go at him, which i dont think was right, cause if he wasnt happy, then he had a right to go.mine were furious that he had left, especailly my mom.

fast forward to december and we had met up a few times and talked, and we both decided to give it another go, with help of conscelling. we had agood xmas together. he has not moved back in but will isome stage, we are taking it slowly.

the problem is my family, they are so so against us getting back together. my moother and i have had numerous rows about it, cause she thinks he is no good and doesnt deserve me, she thinks he will use me again, and then leave when it suits. i can see where she is comming from and i know she is only looking out for me as she doesnt want to see me hurt,. she cant understand why i want to get back with him. last week she came to me and said that he had kissed another girl about four weeks after we broke up.this is true as he had told me,which i said to her, sshe said he had me brainwashed!! also our house is built beside my brothers and near my parents so he and them would see alot of eachother if he moved back

. i just dont know what to do?????

HELP!!!!