When is it time To Settle Down & tone down the Binge Drinking

finnegan2010

So im 32 and married. No kids.
Normal week is no drinking school nights.
One or 2 or 4 drinks on a friday watching late late show.
Ill admit I do get twisted on a saturday night not to falling over but to where i cant recall what happened IE Black out. About 12 cans maybe a shot of vodka or 2 or 3 is what does this. Start drinking around 6 saturday stop about 1am
She doesnt drink.
Is this normal for a co-habiting couple? Or should i really kick the saturday night binges every week?

ilovefridays

hi finnegan, i dont see a problem with what your doing. you're been good during the week, so no harm in having a load of drink at the weekend. your not harming anyone. you say she doesnt drink.....does she have a problem with your drinking?

mood

finnegan2010 wrote: »

So im 32 and married. No kids.
Normal week is no drinking school nights.
One or 2 or 4 drinks on a friday watching late late show.
Ill admit I do get twisted on a saturday night not to falling over but to where i cant recall what happened IE Black out. About 12 cans maybe a shot of vodka or 2 or 3 is what does this. Start drinking around 6 saturday stop about 1am
She doesnt drink.
Is this normal for a co-habiting couple? Or should i really kick the saturday night binges every week?

I wouldn't have married someone who drinks like that. Sounds like it could develop into a more serious problem. Why not have just a few pints?

mood

ilovefridays wrote: »

hi finnegan, i dont see a problem with what your doing. you're been good during the week, so no harm in having a load of drink at the weekend. your not harming anyone. you say she doesnt drink.....does she have a problem with your drinking?

Binge drinking has major negative health effects.

Link below:
http://www.suite101.com/content/the-health-effects-of-binge-drinking-a138798

Beetlebum

Do you drink in the house on a Saturday or in the pub with friends?
Either way it's an excessive amount of alcohol but if it's at home alone then it's even more worrying.

I think you already know the answer or else you wouldn't be asking the question. I've recently hit booze on the head and I gotta say it's proving to be a great decision.

I was drinking far too much too often and it wasn't even enjoyable anymore. Lets face it, it can't be much fun for your wife watching you drink every weekend. I'm sure she'd much rather you spent time with her and didn't wake up with anasty hangover. Also, I doubt you're 'up for much' after drinking that amount in one night!

You know what you need to do, even try it for a couple weeks and assess how you feel then.

Good luck, it's not easy, I should know!!

Squiggler

finnegan2010 wrote: »

Ill admit I do get twisted on a saturday night not to falling over but to where i cant recall what happened IE Black out.

If my OH was making a regular habit of this it would become an issue. I'm pregnant so can't drink and when my OH has had a few drinks I sometimes find him loud and irritating and have to ask him to tone it down. If he was drinking to the point where he couldn't control or remember his own behaviour I would find that very difficult to deal with.

But, leaving my feelings completely out of it as your partner may feel differently, it is not healthy for you to be drinking yourself into that condition.

finnegan2010

mood wrote: »

I wouldn't have married someone who drinks like that. Sounds like it could develop into a more serious problem. Why not have just a few pints?

Love a few pints indeed but a few become a few more..!

finnegan2010

Well her mum is staying for one month so ill be beer free for then and see how long i can go for!
I just drink in the house sometimes a quick late pint in the local about 11 with her.

Thanks for your advice. yeah i think the answer is clear.
thanks for thoughts:)

mood

finnegan2010 wrote: »

Love a few pints indeed but a few become a few more..!

To be honest it think it's worrying that you can't stop a a few.

gerryk

mood wrote: »

I wouldn't have married someone who drinks like that. Sounds like it could develop into a more serious problem. Why not have just a few pints?

mood wrote: »

To be honest it think it's worrying that you can't stop a a few.

I think you're projecting a little here. Who said anything about "can't"?
From what I see, the OP is a little concerned himself, and having received advice that he could tone it down, is considering toning it down.

Why all the judgement?

OP, I'm sure you know yourself that that amount is a bit OTT and for the sake of your health it could be knocked on the head, or certainly reined in a bit.

mood

gerryk wrote: »

I think you're projecting a little here. Who said anything about "can't"?
From what I see, the OP is a little concerned himself, and having received advice that he could tone it down, is considering toning it down.

Why all the judgement?

OP, I'm sure you know yourself that that amount is a bit OTT and for the sake of your health it could be knocked on the head, or certainly reined in a bit.

I certainly not projecting. I simple think the OP doesn't realise that this could be a real problem either now or in the future.

SheRa

finnegan2010 wrote: »

not to falling over but to where i cant recall what happened IE Black out.

In answer to your question, when you cant recall what happened when you drink.

prinz

ilovefridays wrote: »

hi finnegan, i dont see a problem with what your doing. you're been good during the week, so no harm in having a load of drink at the weekend.

It would be a lot better healthwise for the OP to spread his drinks over the week. Either way a 32 year old drinking until he blacks out - childish. Unhealthy relationship with alcohol there.

dudara

12 cans (assuming 500ml cans) is approx 24 units plus 3 shots brings us to approx 27 units.

That is definitely heavy drinking and if you are doing in front of your partner while she doesn't drink, then that's downright inconsiderate to her. There's nothing worse than being sober with a fool of a drunk next to you.

BTW - have you asked her what she thinks about all this? It's one thing if someone doesn't drink, and the other person has a few. But you're clearly getting hammered and that's not nice for the sober person.

finnegan2010

Thanks for your input. First Weekend off the booze, Had a nice productive weekend . Had 4 glasses of wine last night. So the binge is on hold for now. I dont think its worth it

Taltos

finnegan2010 wrote: »

Thanks for your input. First Weekend off the booze, Had a nice productive weekend . Had 4 glasses of wine last night. So the binge is on hold for now. I dont think its worth it

Umm - not trying to split hairs here - but your above statement is incorrect - let me update it for you.

First weekend without the booze binge.

OP maybe you should really take this opportunity to see if you can completely cut out all alcohol for a while. Get it 100% out of your system for a month or two and see where you stand.
Overdoing alcohol can have many consequences. Not only for you but also for your relationship. I kind of remember somewhere that it may impact your fertility.

I am not anti-alcohol, despite growing up with an alcoholic parent. And your description of yourself brings a shiver to my spine. I know nobody wants to admit they have a problem, and maybe you don't - but maybe just maybe you do. Why do I think that? All in your language - your self-deception that 4 glasses of wine was a booze free weekend.

I am hoping I am wrong here OP. Really do.

FYI: I enjoy an odd drink now. Having gone through the binge fest myself - stopped in early 20s... One blackout was enough for me, but not for you?