What to think?

LegacyUser

OK, I know there are similar threads to this but I guess each one has it's own differences so please bear with me.

Where to start. A friend of mine I've known about 8 years, when I say friend we're more of texting buddies, but wouldn't meet up. We had a little thing years ago, but nothing that went too far. Texts always end up really flirty, until someone doesn't respond then nothing until one of us texts again a few weeks later. Round and round we go.

So after the most recent bout of texting, he called to my house and we ended up in bed. Didn't have sex but fooled around a bit. Then as we were fooling around, he just stopped it. We chatted for a while and then he left, nothing from him since. By the way, I have my suspicions he has a girlfriend, but I can't get a completely straight answer out of him on that (should say it all really eh?).

I'm not even sure why I'm posting here - I guess I just want peoples opinions on it all (I can't tell my friends about this). I'm thinking he was into it, then felt guilty (see girlfriend part of post above). Does he like me and that's why he isn't honest about the girlfriend? Or is it a plain old wanted to get his leg over and like I said above, felt guilty.

Any opinions?

PS: I'm old enough to know better too, just not experienced in the art of boy bullsh*t!

Wurly

Ask him straight out if he has a girlfriend. If he refuses to answer or dodges the question, then that's not good and you should steer clear.

If he has a girlfriend - steer clear obviously.

If he doesn't have a girlfriend and you like him, just ask him out.

Limbo is a sh1te place to be in. You're better off knowing one way or another.

We could guess his motives all night but could be wide of the mark. Ask him straight out.

LegacyUser

You know Tri, you're right, feel a bit stupid posting it now because had I read that post it's exactly what I'd say too.

allovertheshop

Ask him out. maybe not on a one to one basis, maybe along the lines of "a few friends of mine ar going to pub/cinema/gig" etc and see if he wants to go, and see what he says?
If he's got a girlfriend he should say no, and tell you it's because of this. If he says yes, he likes you.
Although from what you've said, it sound like he'd just playing around with you, girlfriend or no girlfriend

I am a friend

If he is getting into your bed, you have a right to know whether or not he has a gf!!!! The fact that he refuses to answer says it all to me. Proceed with caution.

Wurly

Guessinggame wrote: »

You know Tri, you're right, feel a bit stupid posting it now because had I read that post it's exactly what I'd say too.

Your human.:) Sometimes we don't trust ourselves when really, we know all the right answers deep down. Your head is just muddled.

I am a friend wrote: »

If he is getting into your bed, you have a right to know whether or not he has a gf!!!! The fact that he refuses to answer says it all to me. Proceed with caution.

I would agree with this. To be honest, I don't like the sound of this guy at all. From what you say, he comes across as quite aloof and dare I say, a wee bit arrogant... if your instinct is telling you to walk the other way, trust it.