I don't know what to do with this girl.

LegacyUser

Ok, this might make me sound ridiculously immature and stupid, but bear with me :P

I'm still in school and I'm a lesbian. A while ago, I was sitting by myself in Irish until one day this other girl I've never said a word to in my life decided to move away from her own friends over to next to me. She's one of the blonde, sporty, popular crowd (you know the ones :P) and me on the other hand I'm not sporty and really academic so basically our paths have never crossed before now!

For a while I didn't have a clue what was going on and why on earth she was talking to me, but then I saw her out in her normal clothes and I'm fairly sure she is gay too but I'm not sure, she could just dress really masculinely for some other reason :P We were out at a school thing and for the whole day I caught her looking over at me and fairly frequently we get caught in this weird eye contact that just lasts that bit longer than normal and I have a feeling she likes me! The problem is I'm really, really shy around her even though I really like her. I laugh at her jokes and talk to her sometimes but for the most part I'm completely lost for what to say. How on earth do I get around this? I'm worried that if she isn't gay and then she thinks I like her she'll tell all her evil blonde friends and I'll get picked on :S

LegacyUser

There's no need to do anything for now. Let her make the first (obvious) move, it's less risky.

allovertheshop

are you out in your school environment, would this girl already know that you are a lesbian?
I'd be very careful if i were you because even if this girl does fancy you and is okay with you being gay, they're will always be some other imature student who may not be okay with it and, while it's easy for people to tell you to ignore people like this, it's so much harder said than done. especially when you ahve to spend every day in school together.
If this girl does know that you are gay, i'd wait for her to make the first move. And then i'd keep it low key, especially as far as school goes

MissFlitworth

Heya OP, I don't know if this is sh1tty advice to be giving you because I could be being over cautious and who knows, those girls could be absolutely fine but if you are younger than a 5th of 6th year (when people tend to be a little more mature) and the group of girls your crush hangs around with are genuinely nasty then I would definitely not make a move on her unless you are very sure she is gay too. Are you out in school? Would you mind being outted by her or her friends if things went wrong?

If you're not already in touch with BelongTo you should definitely give it a whirl http://www.belongto.org/ to get chatting to girls your age you know for sure are gay and also to get advice on situations like this.

I hate saying to be careful in situations like this because you really should not have to but sometimes groups of kids can be really nasty (as I'm sure you've noticed yourself) especially to gay kids

Artistic_Love

I'm not sure how to word this, so please bear with me.
My experience is that in school, romantic drama and all that jazz take up a LOT of time and energy, and even in college I think that it can be unwise to date people who are in your class and therefore will be with you for the next several years, even if you separate romantically. Especially if she would be your first lesbian relationship, I would not get involved with someone from a school group. I would suggest that to anyone, irrelevant of sexuality. If you become friends with her, you never know what can come after graduation. I hope this helps..I know it's probably not what you want to hear...